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Pictures of You

Is the picture of you from your mirror, the same as the picture of you that your spouse has? In other words what you see, is that what your spouse sees? I don’t mean the outside appearance but your positive and negative traits and qualities. Do we ever see ourselves, our good points and our faults objectively? Recently Mick and I were with another couple we know. Being a person who loves quizzes and personality tests and such, I tried out a 100 question quiz or brain system checklist with another couple. Each of them had to answer each question … Continue reading →

Have You Ever Heard of an Exercise Disorder?

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I hadn’t heard of one until recently, but the more I read about it, the more sense it made. An exercise disorder is similar in nature to other excessive disorders such as eating disorders. Now, don’t get me wrong, there is a difference between an exercise enthusiast and someone who has an exercise disorder. Exercise Obsessed Someone who is exercised obsessed, you exercise in spite of injuries, when you feel poorly and when you are in danger of really hurting yourself, because you feel you have to and you can’t stop yourself. An exercise enthusiast is one who exercises frequently … Continue reading →

Be Kind to Yourself

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Being kind to yourself is not the same as being self-indulgent. Being accepting of yourself and your flaws is not the same as being lazy and unwilling to make healthy changes. Self kindness is: Recognizing things you do that are harmful to yourself and stopping them. Defending yourself against negative thoughts, words, and actions from within. Defending yourself against negative thoughts, words, and actions from others. Being honest about your flaws and outstanding qualities. Asking for help when you need it. Resting when you need it. Believing in yourself. Choosing to make changes in your life. Self kindness is not: … Continue reading →

Dear Heather … My Husband Thinks It’s My Fault

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Dear Heather I get so frustrated with my husband sometimes. I’m overweight. I have been since my second child was born. With my son, the weight just fell off, but in the last couple of years I haven’t lost that pregnancy weight with my daughter. I don’t like how I look, honestly, I feel very chunky and ungainly these days. I gained over 50 pounds and I only lost about 10 after our daughter was born and then quickly regained that 10 pounds. A couple of days ago, I was feeling pretty frustrated and my husband said, and I quote, … Continue reading →

Do Disney Princesses Hurt Self-Image in Little Girls?

Has your little girl ever dressed up like a Disney Princess? Mine has. She had a box of play clothes at age three that included outfits for Snow White, Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty. For her third Halloween, she dressed up in a red Belle (from Beauty in the Beast) gown and called herself the Princess Cassidy. For fourth Halloween, she dressed up in a yellow Belle dress in order to be Belle herself. She loves to play dress up, she loves to play Princess and whether that princess is Jasmine, Aurora, Cinderella, Tinker Bell or other, she loves to become … Continue reading →

Boost Your Self Image

As many as six million people around the world may have what’s called BDD: body dysmorphic disorder. A person may be so preoccupied with perceived flaws in their appearance that it becomes an obsession and interferes with their daily lives. Even if your body image isn’t that bad, it may not be that good, either. Experts believe that up to eighty percent of all women are unhappy with their appearance in some way! Ready for a self image boost? Stop making up critical thoughts for other people. That lady you saw in the food store who looked at you and … Continue reading →

Ten Ways To Celebrate National Eating Disorder Awareness Week

Sign the Declaration of Independence from a Weight Obsessed World from the National Eating Disorders Association. Free yourself from the three Ds: Dieting, Drive for Thinness, and Dissatisfaction with your Body. Avoid making comments about body size or shape — for yourself and for other people! A person’s value is not determined by size or shape. Donate clothes that no longer fit comfortably to a local charity. Donate jeans that don’t fit comfortably to the Great Jeans Giveaway. Someone else will appreciate the gift of clothes, and you won’t have to feel bad about clothes that don’t fit. Start every … Continue reading →

Dear Heather … The Thin Commandments

Dear Heather, I like your blog and I like reading it, thanks for putting in the work to keep it updated. I hope you’re doing well, I noticed you haven’t been writing as much as you usually do. But I digress, the reason for my note is I’ve been reading some weight loss motivation books lately and I came across these Thin Commandments. I wanted to know if you’d heard of them and if you have any comments on them. If you aren’t thin, you aren’t attractive. Being thin is more important than being healthy. You must buy clothes, cut … Continue reading →

Kid Fitness: The Burden of Being a Teenager

Being overweight can be hard on anyone, but it’s particularly hard on a teenager. Remember, teenagers are already under assault from a flood of hormones and social pressures. Too often, when you are different or less than pleasing as a teenager – other teenagers are far from kind about it. I remember once reading an article that detailed high school was a microcosm for the real world with every positive and negative experience heightened exponentially. I Was a Big Teenager I was not a petite teenager. I hit puberty before most of the others. I developed breasts and more. I … Continue reading →

If You Don’t Trust the Mirror, Take a Good Look at Your Dog!

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We all know that people tend to find pets who are similar to them in some way. I have a Rhodesian Ridgeback who likes to lay around all day, refuses to be rushed and will tear the stuffing out of anybody or any thing that threatens our family. I guess I’m a little bit like that. You see, we love to compare ourselves and our pets’ good qualities but what we often overlook are the other qualities. Some of us (not me) have such high self-esteem that we don’t actually see what is in the mirror. We see the picture … Continue reading →