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A Dirty Little Stepparenting Secret

When women date men with children from a previous marriage, we often romanticize the future. We will get married, have a beautiful family of loving, adoring, adorable children who call us “Mom” and are thankful for all we do but leave often enough (or visit rarely enough) to enjoy romantic weekends away with our new husbands. This is pretty much opposite of reality for most blended families. The bonding and relationships with our new stepchildren is one of the biggest areas new stepmoms find themselves taken aback. Very seldom do stepchildren latch onto new stepparents, particularly stepmothers, with loving adoration. … Continue reading →

“You Are Not My Mother” and 9 Other Stepmom Truths

I became a stepmom several years ago, and I can honestly say I wasn’t very prepared. I had some stepmom experience; after all I had two of my own while growing up! But, upon reflection, they pretty much stayed out of my life and I stayed out of theirs. When we visited, my dad handled everything. I took this for granted and never considered it as a lesson to be applied to my own family until after I became a stepmom myself. I’m a hands-on, stay-at-home mom and my husband’s children spend more time with us than away from us. … Continue reading →

Blending Families – Past & Present

I’ve noticed over the years that when it comes to divorces and blending families, there is no topic so passionately discussed as the issues surrounding step-parenthood. As a step-mother, I feel particularly passionate about this topic. Our new generation of blended families brings something unique to the table that past generations failed to provide – depth of personal experience. Our generation of step-parents was quite frequently the adult byproducts of blended families themselves. Often times we can vividly remember how it felt to establish a relationship with this pseudo-parent as a small child – good, bad or ugly. This depth … Continue reading →