As a married couple, you generally have a set group of friends. However, after going through a divorce or the death of a spouse, things change. You soon find yourself not hanging out with the same people, being alone. The most important thing is that for your sake and for the sake of your children, you need to create a new support network. In fact, many times new single parents will find they connect with other single parents from their child’s school, the neighborhood, or just through a happenstance meeting.
The thing is that as a single parent a network is important, not just for your own sanity but also for other reasons. For instance, your children will need to establish new friends, just as you do. In addition, a network of trusted friends will provide you with someone to care for your children should you need to run an errand, go to the doctor, or work late. Of course, having a good support system also means having friends who are in the same situation as you are, lending moral and physical support, and encouragement when needed.
If you were unsure where to begin, you might get involved with a local church, community center, or even consider going back to school. Another great way to meet new friends and begin building your network system is through organizations and clubs such as the YMCA. With this, you can spend time at the YMCA with your children, having them take swimming classes along with other children. In fact, if your children are small, most YMCA’s provide childcare, providing an opportunity for you to enjoy time in a spin class, aerobics class, or swim class.
Getting your child involved in sports is another way to reach out for your child’s sake and you. While cheering your child on in baseball, you can meet with the other mothers and make friends. When attending your daughter’s volleyball games, volunteer to be a line judge. With a quick lesson, the job is easy and fun. Simply check out the various activities your child shows interest in and then dive in. Many times, single parents are heavily involved, giving you the chance to build your friendship network.
As mentioned, many times churches will have special functions specifically for single parents. This way, you can go on picnics, hikes, to the movies, concerts, and all types of things with other people like you. Most often, the church will have qualified childcare, which also provides fun things for the children while you take a break. However, your network of support could also be old friends and new friends simply coming over for dinner. The most important thing to remember is that being a single parent brings up new challenges but if you have friends surrounding you, the possibilities for fun and success are endless.
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