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Should You Confront a Narcissist about their Narcissism? - Blog Entry

17 Sep 2008 10:03 AM

Hi Beth, Suffice to say my future mother in law is NPD no question about it. my fiance saving grace was leaving home at 17 to attend College and moving to the west coast. he's dealt with her tantrums ,bullying and all the ugly stuff long distance his whole life his brother is her total slave and has lived with her almost all his life he is lost with no sense of SELF.It really has had little effect in our lives till she moved and landed in our part of the world where she's buying a house two blocks away from our new home we only moved in a month ago. she told his brother that he cant live with her anymore yet she has him here doing all her bidding. he's another painfull story and I wont go there now. but he too is now in our lives. what can we do with this selfish demanding woman? my sweetheart told her when she wanted him to see the house that he she was moving to close ,and for one hour she ranted and turned it all back at him. saying she wont bother us . He's trying to set up boundaries stop the 6.30 morning phone calls etc but its having a terrible effect .She is polite to me and comes bearing gifts when she calls in. But I see deep into her heart and its empty the smiling face is false to the core. I believe that this is an opportunity for my fiance to stand in his own power yet it smacks him in the face every turn. I ask myself what am I supposed to learn from this woman.Compassion ,as she wreaks everyone close to her. If NPD means she can never take responsibility for her behaviour what can be done? How best to handle her? I would appreciate your input.