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Postpartum depression: Effects on the marriage - Blog Entry

23 Jul 2007 09:47 PM

Hi. Heres the scoop. I have been married for 2 years to a great man. After the birth of our baby boy in Nov 2006, things have been really going downhill We had fights in the past about relationship stuff, but nothing like this. About a week ago, my husband announced that he was not "in love with me" anymore and that he needed to be seperated to figure some things out. Within a week, he was kissing and holding hands with a young girl from his work who he "suddenly realized" that he had emotionally fallen for. It is your typical affair story... she was there for him, sympathized with his needs, makes him feel special... He has felt disconnect from the marriage for awhile now, but it came to his breaking point recently. It helped that there was motivation. I have felt that he has not been spending enough time with me and when he would go out with his friends, where this girl always came along, I was HURT and crushed that he didnt want to come home to me. I have felt isolated and oh so lonely. I am in a new town with not many people to turn to. I have began forming a friendship with another young mother who has gone through almost this exact same thing. I talk to my mother all the time about the loneliness that I feel, but no one seems to REALLY get it. Im guessing my feelings, the separation, the affair, and everything is classic PPD. I have finally recognized that these symptoms are REAL, that i am not nuts, and am turning my life around. I no longer want to feel resentment for this amazing baby that is in my life for being the source of my hurt in this separation. I have faith that my husband will return. Do a lot of couples separate because of PPD and how can I explain this to my husband?? He needs to know that these feelings are real and that the withdraw that I have done from him emotionally has only been a symptom. That this affair is simply an effect, not an answer...