Thoughts on Soul Mates and Single People

In the Single Side of Things article I wrote in as part of my analysis of Today’s “Why I Got Married, Why I Stayed Single Series”, I ended by saying I didn’t really buy that the single women interviewed were truly happy with their decisions to stay single. Tainted View My thoughts on this are kind of corrupted, because my sister’s a 51-year-old never-been-married single woman. Back in her 20s it was common to hear her declare, “I’m never going to get married. I don’t need it.” Then in her 30s she found someone she thought she might marry. Actually, … Continue reading

Oprah’s “Why Men Cheat” Controversy

Last week Oprah did a show called “How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage: Why Men Cheat Part 2.” I don’t know if she had the “Part 2” planned or not. From the previews it kind of sounded like they did it in response to all of the responses Part 1 generated. It was the previews that caught my attention. Since I wasn’t going to be able to watch the show when it aired, I recorded it. Saturday while Wayne and I were hanging out to nurse Murph, he was flipping through our recorded programs on the DVR and saw the Oprah … Continue reading

Facing a Marriage Crisis

In a previous article I wrote about how alone I’ve felt lately. It’s to the point where I’m asking, “What’s the point of this relationship? Mostly he’s good to me, yes –when he’s available. And once in a while he does incredibly thoughtful things like how he did when he welcomed my mom. But the job is all-consuming anymore and he rarely has time for me. Not even when it’s serious stuff like it has been with my mom. And I don’t know if it really has to be that way, or if he’s using work as an excuse to … Continue reading

Fantasizing Wives

This morning on Today I happened to catch a segment about “Sex and the Married Mom.” I didn’t catch who conducted the poll. (I want to say it was a collaboration between AOL and Cookie Magazine. Somehow Cookie Magazine must have been involved because two women who worked for the magazine were being interviewed about the poll results.) Who did it isn’t as important as the results they found. The Poll The poll interviewed 30,000 married women about their sex lives. What they found was that most of us aren’t as satisfied as some may have formerly thought. Some of … Continue reading

Think “Kaizen” and Mend Relationships One Stitch at a Time

I’m not sure which magazine I was reading recently (I want to say it was Woman’s World), but there was an article about how to accomplish any goal, no matter how big, if you just take it one step at a time. The article explained that the reason many people don’t fulfill their dreams or seize their goals is because they try to do too much at once. However, by focusing on completing one small goal before chipping away at the next –or even worrying about the next– people are much more likely to succeed. The article also referenced the … Continue reading

Which is Worse: An Emotional Affair or a Physical One?

Other than receiving news your spouse is dead (either because he or she was murdered, involved in a fatal car accident, or killed during some other tragedy) I can’t think of much worse news you could receive than to find out your spouse was unfaithful. But there are two kinds of affairs: physical ones and affairs of the heart. As I wrote in True Love Doesn’t Equal Perfect Love, if Wayne ever confessed to an affair I wouldn’t automatically start seeking legal services. I’d wait to figure out what kind of tryst he’d had. (Unless, of course, he told me … Continue reading

Examining the Cinderella Effect

Our across the street neighbor’s little two-year old girl is nuts for Cinderella. We had Christmas dinner with them and Rebekah was simply ecstatic over the “LaLa” (her word for Cinderella or similar characters) that Santa had brought her. Her enthusiasm reminded me that of all the Disney Princesses, Cinderella always ranked as my favorite too. (At least when I was small. I’d have to say Belle’s probably bumped her way to the number one spot now.) But hands down Cinderella was the one who started it all. Like many little girls, my first notions of love at first sight … Continue reading

Are Crushes Natural?

I’m no expert, but I would have to say yes. Crushes happen. And not just to school girls and boys. Saying “I do” and donning a ring on your left hand isn’t an inoculation against infatuation with people other than your spouse. Dirty Little Secrets But no one really talks about it. I’ve seen girlfriends of mine get a little giddy when someone other than their spouse walks into a room. They act a little different, smile a little more, flirt even. It can be anyone from a co-worker to a family friend. I’ve teased a few of them about … Continue reading

Meet Marriage Blogger Courtney Mroch

Greetings! Some of you may know my work from the blogs I write over in the Pets section or from guest blogs I’ve written in Marriage or a few other sections. I’ll still be contributing to Pets as well, but today I officially join Heather Long and Karri Weathers as a Marriage Blogger. Wooohooo! I’m very excited about keeping company with you all. You, however, might be wondering, “Who is this Courtney Mroch and why is she qualified to write about love, marriage, and relationships?” Well, let’s see if I can answer that… 21 Years and Counting I am married. … Continue reading