I happened upon a magazine article yesterday that discussed the pros and cons of homeschooling. It listed all the traditional concerns—socialization, keeping up with peers, etc.—and then an additional concern was raised. Are homeschool parents arrogant for thinking they can possibly teach their children everything they need to know?
I had to stop and think about that for a minute. To be honest, the question took me aback. I’d never considered it before. Do I, as a homeschool mother, think I’m better than everyone else? Do I think I have some kind of special power that no one else has? Am I looking down my nose at parents who send their children to public school, or do I snub school teachers?
After a few moments of soul-searching, I could honestly say, no. I don’t consider myself better than anyone else, and I’m fully aware that I have failings. Many failings. As I thought about it a moment longer, I came to a realization. If other homeschool parents feel the way I do, then we’re not arrogant—we’re confident. And that’s an entirely different thing.
Arrogance says, “I don’t need to learn anything. I know what I need to know.” Confidence says, “I realize that I don’t know everything, but I’m prepared to learn. Show me how to improve.”
Arrogance says, “I don’t need to follow my child’s cues. I know what’s best for them, and that’s what I’ll do.” Confidence says, “I can watch my child and monitor their progress. If they seem to be struggling, I can make the needed adjustments.”
Arrogance says, “I’ve chosen my path, and this is the path I’m going to stick with, no matter what.” Confidence says, “This solution is right for this child, at this time. I am flexible, and I can do what’s right for my child from year to year, from subject to subject.”
I certainly don’t pretend to know everything. In fact, I know very, very little. But what I don’t know, I’m willing to learn. And I’m confident that as my children’s parent, I do have one special talent that sets me apart from the rest … I love them like no one else can.
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