Author Archives: Marcelina Hardy

About Marcelina Hardy

Wife, mom, relationship coach, and freelance writer! I have a MSEd in counseling and many years of experience as a counselor. Helping married people stay that way through the challenges with my blogging.

Can You Ever Love the Same After Infidelity

I was asked by someone if it’s ever possible to love the person who cheated on you the same as you did before the affair. My answer in short was, “No.” With every experience in life, consequences occur. Your life evolves as you come to a new experience. Your life isn’t the same after each episode of your life places because you must adjust to accommodate the changes in your life. When a spouse cheats, it changes the marriage. It changes the way the marriage was before the affair. You can’t go back in time and change what has happened. … Continue reading →

When Your Baby Boy Reaches Out to You

Today, my baby boy had to have some exploratory surgery. It was nothing serious. He had a UTI. When boys have them, doctors want to make sure all the pipes work correctly. Anyway, when we were in the room waiting on the doctor, he asked me to lay in his bed with him. Of course, I jumped right in there to cuddle with him. He said he was scared, and just wanted to hug me. When the nurse came in to get him, he started to cry. I picked him up, hugged him, and he clung to me. I knew … Continue reading →

Memories Mean More to Me

This last Saturday, I spent the day at the pottery place about 45 minutes from my home. It was a date with my daughter. We spent three hours in there that afternoon, and it was the most relaxing, best time I have had in a long time. Spending time with my six year old always makes me feel happy inside. It makes me feel so lucky to have her in my life. As she was painting her plate and I was painting my mug, I thought of snapping a few pictures. But then, I decided not to because I just … Continue reading →

Quantity Versus Quality Time with Your Children

I always try my best to divide my days so I have time to spend with my children. Often times, I feel pulled between work and the children because I have to get work done, but I also feel responsible for spending time with them. This pulling feeling can turn into aggravation, as I feel like I can’t do it all. Yesterday, I put all of my work to the side, and spent the entire day with my husband and children. I didn’t work at all and just concentrated on them. It was very freeing to do that. I didn’t … Continue reading →

End the Marriage or the Affair – Not So Easy for One Woman

As a relationship coach, I speak to many people about their relationship with their spouse. I had one person come to me recently cheating on her husband. She wanted to find out how she can cope with the affair. At first, I thought she wanted to know what she should. I quickly learned that she didn’t want to do anything with the situation, she just wanted to feel better about having the affair. Her reasoning for the affair was that she was not happy with her husband. While she didn’t want to divorce him, she also didn’t want to be … Continue reading →

So This Is What’s It’s Life to Be a Mother

I’m the type of mom that didn’t leave my baby girl’s side ever since she was born. When she started preschool, many people thought I would suffer a great deal, or she would as well for never experiencing anything without me. Surprisingly enough, she did awesome, and I did too. When Kindergarten came, my little girl did not find it as exciting as preschool. She had major separation anxiety, and it took her a long time to get to a point where she wouldn’t cry and cling to me. I think it was easier for me because I was too … Continue reading →

Teachable Moments as a Mom

My daughter has a friend that isn’t very nice to her. She is downright mean actually. She is the bully I wrote about a couple of weeks ago. The bullying has continued and my patience is wearing thin. Of course, as a mother, I want to step in and save my daughter from any emotional or physical harm, but a part of me wants to teach her what to do with this situation. I stayed up last night thinking about what to do. I could contact the teacher to inform her of my concern over the way this little bully … Continue reading →

Dealing with a Bully in Kindergarten

I can hardly believe that I have to deal with a bully as early as kindergarten. My daughter comes home and tells me her “best friend” is mean to her just about every single day. Actually, no, not true. I just think the girl is being mean every day, she thinks she is mean only some days. Why do I think she is mean every day? Because the girl shows obvious signs of an abuser. One day, this bully will tell my daughter that her work is not good. For example, she will say, “What is wrong with your coloring? … Continue reading →

Can’t Escape the Reality of Infidelity

It’s all around us every single day. Go to the grocery store, look at the magazines and you’ll see at least one reference to cheating. Turn on the television and you’ll soon hear about someone cheating on someone else or see the act in some show or movie. It doesn’t ever go away. The only possible way to avoid the reality of a world of cheaters is to shut yourself up in a cave and never come out again. But then again, your thoughts would still remind you of how cruel some people can be to one another. I often … Continue reading →

Boundaries to Set After Infidelity

Infidelity kills trust. Not only does it kill it but it buries it under a mountain of dirt. To bring trust back up to the surface and build it to the heights it was before the affair, boundaries must be set in place. The Reason for Boundaries Boundaries are for the person who has been deceived. It protects them from feeling suspicion that their partner is cheating again. It also shows the adulterer there are consequences to his actions. What Boundaries to Place Many of the boundaries you set will be based on many of the signs you saw when … Continue reading →