Marital therapy, depending on the therapist and the format, can provide a positive extension to a couple’s relationship. It can help to repair damage, overcome obstacles and assist a couple in their rediscovery of each other. But what signs indicate that the marriage needs help? When does a couple decide that marriage therapy is something they need?
10 signs that indicate your marriage may need therapy include:
- You and your spouse are not communicating even when you talk everyday
- Anger and arguments are the rule of thumb in your household and not the exception
- The blame game is played regularly, both of you always finding reasons to blame the other
- If your choice is time to yourself or time with your spouse, you choose time with yourself regularly
- You think about divorce and you find yourself divvying up personal property in your head
- You find that you can’t remember the positive emotions that you shared with your spouse when you got married – the present negativity coloring the past commitments
- You feel a constant sadness tinged with regret and bitterness
- Frustration colors all of your interactions with your spouse
- Sexual intimacy is something you avoid rather than seek or crave to the extent that you will hold off when you go to bed or go to bed very early
- You reach out to your friends with confidences and emotional needs more than you do your spouse
Have you ever gone through marriage therapy?