If you remember part of our mediation agreement was that should the biological mother move she had to notify us within 30 days? We added this clause because of the fact that she has a history of disappearing for months on end and if she wants to show us and more importantly her kids that they mean something to her she will keep up her end of the agreement. If two letters get returned to us we had the legal right to stop with the updates.
We have only sent one update so far and it has been returned to us as there was no forwarding address on record. We were smart when we sent the letter we put a return receipt requested so if she did sign for it we would have proof that we sent it and if it got returned we would have proof of that as well. We wanted to make sure we had proof that we were keeping our end of the mediation agreement.
When the letter was returned we put it aside for our next update time in three months. We would hope that she would let us know shortly that she had moved and what her new address is. If we did then we would open the first update, make a copy and keep the original envelope and resend her the last update that was returned.
About a week before our next update was to be sent we received a letter with the change of address for her. Along with the address change there was a letter addressed to Steve telling him that she knew he had just had a birthday and wanted to wish him a happy birthday. This would have been great except for a few things. She knew we had changed their middle and last names and she referred to him by his former names. The other thing that bothered us is she wrote a birthday message to George in the margin of the paper like it was an afterthought.
So instead of resending her the first update I wrote her a new one letting her know that none of my kids would be treated like an afterthought. I told her if she wanted to send a letter to one of the three acknowledging one of their birthdays (the boys are within a month of each other) that she would address all three children equally and with their first names only. I did include the original letter with it along with a little ps reminding her of the terms of our agreement.