Dear Makala,
I want you to know I love you very much, and miss you every morning. I love Sean, Tori, Makala and Jeremiah all the same because I am the Mommy for all of you. My kid’s are all great kids! All smart, beautiful and special to me.
A mom has a big job to help her children grow up. All kid’s make mistakes and have lessons they need to learn. Everyone makes mistakes even Moms make them sometimes. Moms are still learning and it is never too late to learn when we make a mistake.
God does not make a person BAD ever. God only makes wonderful people each one is good and special and loved by God.
God gives everyone a chance to make a choice to pick from right or wrong. That’s why Kids need parents to teach them what the right choices are, and that’s why kids get into trouble sometimes. Everyone gets in trouble sometimes! Every choice we make has a consequence. Sometimes a choice has a great consequence like our choice to get a new house has been filled with great rewards for our family. Daddy has more time to be with us, we have a big wonderful yard and more room in our pretty house to decorate together.
Our choice to adopt you and Jeremiah has been the Best consequence of all the choices mommy and daddy have ever made! The consequence is getting to Love YOU, and help you grow up! We made a choice to be your mom and dad. The case workers and “Kid Helpers” made a choice that we were the Right mom and dad for you to grow up with. The choice to Adopt you was the very best choice I have made in my whole life.
When Sean was 9 he made a choice–to sled down the street after it snowed. He had a huge consequence because he hurt his leg very-very badly. Sean’s choice changed his whole life forever and took away some chances and choices he would have in his future. Sean can never play basketball, or soccer. He cannot be a policeman, fireman or join the military. Sean cannot do so many things he wishes he could because his leg will never ever work the way it would have–if he didn’t make an unsafe choice.
Sean’s choice to sled put him in the hospital, he was there the first time for 21-days and then had 3-operations and 3-more times in the hospital. He had to go to therapy for 3 or 4 hours every week for more then 2-years, and walked on crutches for a very long time. He was afraid to put down his crutches and didn’t know if he could ever walk without them. He needed his mom and dad to help him learn how to walk again.
Today, we can all still see how bad his choice hurt him. We can see his scars and watch him limp and know that he still hurts most days. We can see how much his choice to sled that day changed his life forever.
Your birth mom made some choices too. Some of her choices hurt her babies, and especially hurt you. The HURT that you have might not be something that we can all see, but the hurt you have is just as real as any hurt can be. Your birth mom was not able to make the right choices for you. Your birth mom loved you very-very much but, she didn’t want to learn how to make better choices to keep you safe. So the consequences were that your birth mom could not be your growing up mommy anymore. Everyone wanted to be sure you were always safe–and had a chance to grow up a learn to make the best choices for your own life.
That is the ONLY reason you needed new parents….
To be continued: Part 2- Scar Tissue
Related Blogs:
- Choices and Consequences
- Scar Tissue
- Rumors and Crutches
- The Story of Joe and Eddie
- Thanksgiving and LeRoy’s Boys
- When Uncle Eddie Took Care of His Birth Mother.
- I Married An Adopted Boy.
Special Needs and Adoption-Related Terms: Adoption terms and special needs words may vary from agency to agency. The terms used in this Special Needs Adoption-Related Glossary may be slightly different from one State to another.
A | B | C | D | E-F | G-H-I | J-K-L | M | N-O | P | Q-R | S | T-U-V-W-X-Y-Z
For more information about parenting special needs children you might want to visit the Families.com Special Needs Blog and the Mental Health Blog. Or visit my personal website.
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