Are you concerned about your mental health? Perhaps you just worry that, because you’re at home minding children, you’re missing out on something better. Take a free test from Queendom.com to find out just how concerned you need to be. To take any of a multitude of tests on personality, anxiety, health, love, need for therapy, stress, etc, you just need to join Queendom.com for FREE. The tests are scored on line and you receive an almost instant analysis of your current state of emotional health. Although the tests have a high rate of validity, the just-for-fun tests DO NOT replace professional advice and treatment. There is even a test called “Do I Need Therapy” . Should you decide that you do need to talk to a professional, don’t forget that my Mental Health colleague at Families.com, psychologist Beth McHugh, offers on-line counseling. She’s excellent. Read her blogs to discover her vast knowledge in many areas of life.
I’ve used Queendom.com with my clients for years. I will often set a homework task of taking a relevant Queendom.com test and discuss it in depth at our next therapy session. The tests are designed to help people reflect on what it is that’s going wrong in their life and to provide a motivation to do things differently. If you think you’re crazy, chances are you’re not. Your thoughts of craziness display an insight into not liking what is currently happening. Too often, we know we hate things the way they are but we don’t know what to do to change them.
As parents, we may look at the lives of others and think that they’re getting something we’re not. We can only ever see the covering on a person’s life. Just because someone else looks great, doesn’t mean their life is great. Rather than being concerned with keeping up appearances and making yourself look like you’re all together, change yourself from the inside so that you become the person you want to be. To become who you want to, you first need to know yourself – warts and all. There is no shame in having warts. We all have them. The shame is in carrying the wart virus for longer than you need to.
Am I crazy? Too right – I’ve been a full time working parent for far too long. For six years of my life, I was a full time working single parent of six (Four of mine, two fostered). Absolute craziness! I was exhausted and bitter with life. I took steps to change the bad parts and increased the good things. I’m now extremely happy and love my life. When things are going wrong, I reflect on my role in it and make changes to accommodate my own feelings, wants and needs without competing with the feelings, wants and needs of my family. I know who I am and it doesn’t scare me.
Go on – take a test, make some changes and start to live your life for the better. Do some Queendom.com homework, sweep the cobwebs from your own door and experience the world through a different frame.
Some related Families.com articles about doing things differently:
Stress Busting for Men & Women;
Confessions of a Supermom: I Never Burn Out;
How to Use Bibliotherapy to Help your Child Solve a Problem;
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