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Book Review: Nikolai, the Only Bear

Nikolai, the Only Bear is a story about a bear who lives in an orphanage (in Russia. Nikolai is the only bear in the orphanage. He is three years old. He tries to play with the other children, but they are afraid of him. His caregivers are constantly telling him to say hello, say thank you, play nice, sing the same lyrics as everyone else at music class. The problem is, Nikolai does say all those things, but the caregivers and the other children don’t speak bear.

The softly colored illustrations show the orphans playing and being cared for in various ways.

Nikolai watches as other children leave with new mothers and fathers.

“Dr. Larissa” writes a letter to America, saying that Nikolai is lively and healthy, although he doesn’t speak yet and they are trying to teach him to play well with others. She believes a loving family would help, and believes Nikolai could make a wonderful addition to a family.

One day a man and a woman come to visit. The man has a “furry face” (a beard), just like Nikolai’s furry face. When Nikolai growls hello, the man growls back. When Nikolai holds up his paws and claws the air, the expects the woman to say, “Play nice”. But she claws the air and takes Nikolai’s paw in her hands.

The visitors come every day. The other children begin to accept Nikolai as they see the visitors accept him. The woman’s singing voice makes Nikolai feel “soft-bearish”, like he wants to climb into her lap. One day, he does. Soon the new family is on their way home to America.

This unusual adoption book may have the effect of allowing children to empathize with Nikolai, at a safer distance from their own experience than reading about another child might be.

The book would also be good for all children. The very simple sentences speak poignantly about someone who tries to fit in, but is not understood:

“Nikolai does sing the words. He sings Bear words, but Miss Sonya doesn’t speak bear.”

Many children in the U.S. today have some children in their school who are still learning English. With mainstreaming, kids may be in a classroom with kids who have autism or language difficulties. This book reminds children—and adults—that these children may well be trying very hard to reach out.

This book is by well-known children’s author Barbara Joose, who wrote I Love You the Purplest and Mama, Do You Love Me?

Please see these related blogs:

Kids’ Books Starring Internationally Adopted Kids

Books on International Adoption for Adults

Before Green Gables

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About Pam Connell

Pam Connell is a mother of three by both birth and adoption. She has worked in education, child care, social services, ministry and journalism. She resides near Seattle with her husband Charles and their three children. Pam is currently primarily a Stay-at-Home-Mom to Patrick, age 8, who was born to her; Meg, age 6, and Regina, age 3, who are biological half-sisters adopted from Korea. She also teaches preschoolers twice a week and does some writing. Her activities include volunteer work at school, church, Cub Scouts and a local Birth to Three Early Intervention Program. Her hobbies include reading, writing, travel, camping, walking in the woods, swimming and scrapbooking. Pam is a graduate of Seattle University and Gonzaga University. Her fields of study included journalism, religious education/pastoral ministry, political science and management. She served as a writer and editor of the college weekly newspaper and has been Program Coordinator of a Family Resource Center and Family Literacy Program, Volunteer Coordinator at a church, Religion Teacher, Preschool Teacher, Youth Ministry Coordinator, Camp Counselor and Nanny. Pam is an avid reader and continuing student in the areas of education, child development, adoption and public policy. She is eager to share her experiences as a mother by birth and by international adoption, as a mother of three kids of different learning styles and personalities, as a mother of kids of different races, and most of all as a mom of three wonderful kids!