Yesterday on the Today show they had a guy on named Paul Janka, a self-proclaimed “serial seducer.” Meredith Vieira interviewed him, and I was cracking up because she tried to maintain journalistic integrity. She tried not to form an opinion of him and to present the matter impartially, but I got the distinct impression she didn’t think too much of him.
I didn’t either. He claims he’s had over 100 bedroom conquests and doesn’t feel bad about loving and leaving them. He says he was honest with his intentions up front and they knew what to expect.
His Philosophy
He also shared his philosophy that “a man needs a goal when he spends time with a woman.” Basically he compared it to his experiences running a small business when he was in his twenties. There’d be meetings where people got together, talked for 30 minutes, but afterwards it was just that: talk and no action. Nothing was getting done.
His dating life was the same. Dates that lead nowhere. Apparently this means the bedroom for him. He didn’t want to just be someone’s movie date that ended in a hug and quick peck.
He also didn’t want to become part of what he called a “societal script” because it didn’t “incorporate [his] interests as a man.” He feels women, especially in New York City’s dating scene, have certain agendas and expect things to flow a certain way and those ways don’t interest him.
“…women often have an imagined ideal for a date. This may involve many things I’d rather not do (and pay for)…. And in my experience, young women often brag to their girlfriends about where they went and what they ate, rather than who they were with. That’s a lousy deal for the sap who funds the night.” ~- Paul Janka-~
This Guy Thinks He’s Father Material?
Meredith asked a question I think most women want to know when it comes to this sort of man: does he ever see himself committing someday?
He said he did, if he found a woman who meshed with him mentally, spiritually, and sexually. He also said that one day he’d like to be a husband and a father.
Say what? He’s too selfish and wrapped up in himself to even grasp that concept.
Why I Believe He Says He Wants to Be a Dad Someday
I think it’s a ploy to entice more women to be interested in him. Admit it, girls, there’s something about a bad boy with a “I could give a sh-t less” attitude that’s attractive for some reason. (At least for a little while.) Women see that as a challenge. They want the chance to prove they’re the one for him.
I think he knows this and it’s all part of his game. He seems very hung up on manipulation. Both doing it and thinking that’s all women are about.
“Decide what you want and how you want to get it (such as sex with a woman) and go for it. In the end, they’ll respect you more for it, even if they walk. Women, as most guys eventually learn, can’t respect a man they can manipulate.” ~-Paul Janka-~
He’ll never find “the one” with that kind of attitude. And honestly it doesn’t sound like he really wants to. He’s just interested in the conquests.
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