When it comes to spending time with your spouse, most of us would say that time with our spouses and our families are the most important time we can spend in a day. You would say that, right? I would. But time is a funny thing, it has a tendency to get away from us and we start to put too much importance on getting everything done – from the dishes to the laundry to paying the bills and getting the yard work finished and then there’s the work you need to get done so you can attend the meetings the next day.
Oh, don’t forget the kid’s home work and the projects you agreed to handle for the PTA. There’s the volunteer work you need to finish and there’s more to come. You’re so busy all the time – that you and your spouse both rely on each other to look after yourselves and of course, you both understand how busy each is – but it doesn’t detract from the loneliness that you can both experience in your marriage.
Make the Time
Whether it means quite literally scheduling an hour for yourselves every night or creating situations that allow you to spend time together, you ned to clear your schedules and make time for each other. You need the time to talk, to be together and to enjoy each other’s company. If you travel frequently, you need regular contacts to keep that connection alive between you.
You see, when you don’t do this, you may become used to being disconnected and that disconnection can actually contribute to more problems in your marriage. If you’re indifferent to this kind of problem, it’s likely because you’ve had so much disconnection in your relationship that you’ve actually grown accustomed to not being together.
Marriage is about being together, sharing a life together and the things that connect you – that you share together – are the glue in your relationship. It’s important to remember that and if you discover that you haven’t had a lot of time together recently – make some. Trust me, the dishes will be there tomorrow and so will the weeds – if you don’t make time for your spouse, they may not be there and I’d much rather deal with pulling weeds tomorrow than wondering what happened to my marriage.
How do you and your spouse make the time for each other?
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