Every marriage goes through changes, especially with time. The newness wears off, the romance seems to fizzle out, and sex might not even be that great any more. The companionship once shared has been exchanged for a quiet and often lonely dual existence, where two people live in the same home but pass each other like roommates instead of sharing their lives like spouses.
What can you do about it? Fall in love with your spouse again. Do what you can to reignite his or her feelings towards you. Take time to remember special moments and all the little things that drew you to your mate in the first place.
Laugh and have fun together. It is important to enjoy spending time together. Even though life may be very demanding, you both need time off to laugh and play. Go for a walk. Cuddle. Read a book or make dinner together. Talk and reconnect.
There are many things you can do to put pleasure back into your marriage. You don’t have to spend a lot of time or money, just make a consistent effort. The little things are often the most important ways to connect.
Stop and think of things your husband or wife really enjoys. Remember what kinds of things make him laugh out loud or make her giggle with childlike joy. Go back to doing things for each other, “just because.” It doesn’t always have to be an extravagant candle light dinner or a weekend away. Try bringing home a pack of those Pop Rocks he loved when you were kids. Pick her a daisy. Write each other love notes. They don’t have be volumes filled with flowery prose; they can be short and sweet.
“I’m thinking about you today.”
“I miss laughing with you.”
“You are so beautiful.”
“Meet me for dinner?”
Don’t let daily demands keep you and your spouse from enjoying each other and the relationship you have built. Do something special for him or her every day, even if it is the tiniest thing. Thoughtful gestures make people feel loved, and special, and wanted. Your spouse will notice the difference and feel the love.