Have you ever noticed that you can tell a LOT about a person by how they speak and what they say? I’m an observer by nature, and I’ve spent a lot of time listening to people and I’ve noticed over and over again that language is a key indicator of the type of person I’m listening to. The For the Strength of Youth pamphlet points out several things about language that I personally appreciate including the statement that “how you speak says much about who you are.”
The pamphlet gives some good direction on things you should do regarding language. These include using clean and intelligent language, saying uplifting and complimentary things, and being kind and encouraging to others. I love these guidelines. My mom has three questions written out on her fridge that remind everyone how they should speak. The questions are: Is it nice? Is it true? Is it necessary? If your comment passes these three questions, it’s good to say. I know there have been many times I’ve been tempted to say something, but when it didn’t pass this little test, I had to bite my tongue and find something else to say (or say nothing at all).
I’ve also noticed how much people love being around those who speak positively. It’s hard to be around someone who’s critical, mean spirited, or who uses harsh language. I find it makes me feel less kind, which I don’t like. I think that gossip fits in here, especially when there’s ill intent. I think everyone has been hurt by words before, but no one needs to be.
The pamphlet also gives some guidelines on things to avoid in your conversations. Keeping the Lord’s name holy and not misusing it is listed first, followed by crude language or gestures and off color jokes. Swearing is a bad habit, but the pamphlet lets us know that good language is more than just avoiding swear words—it’s avoiding anything that is vulgar.
I love the direction to find good friends who speak kindly and choose good conversation. This suggestion goes a long way in keeping yourself away from the temptation to be unkind or say things you know you shouldn’t. It also talks about being a good example to those around you. I know that if more people were to ask themselves those three simple questions, we’d have more positive conversations and language to enjoy.
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For the Strength of Youth Series
For the Strength of Youth Series: Agency and Accountability
For the Strength of Youth Series: Gratitude
For the Strength of Youth Series: Education
For the Strength of Youth Series: Family
For the Strength of Youth Series: Friends
For the Strength of Youth Series: Dress and Appearance