A woman has got to love a bad man once or twice in her life to be thankful for a good one.
— Mae West
Do you have a good man or a bad man? Hopefully you share your life with a good man. I found this quote to be so true. In my first marriage I struggled to get my husband to share his weekend and/or free time with me, was always trying to get him to communicate with me and generally felt there was a serious lack of interest and over all respect. I always knew that I deserved a better man, someone who I could have a mutually satisfying and respectful relationship with. It took a while but I decided to leave him for those as well as other reasons, with a two month old, to re-discover myself and gain my self-respect back.
I was not looking for another relationship but over two-years later a man with an eight-year old son moved next door to me. We would see each other once in a while as we both arrived home at the same time. We would chitchat regularly and finally decided to try an actual date. Mark and I have now been married almost one year. My relationship with my Husband is so completely different than my experience with my first marriage. We truly enjoy one another, we like each other’s company, we respect one another and we do not judge one another. We are both moving in the same direction and put our marriage and our family first.
For me it is in the details. Mark leaves for work before I do and each morning he prepares my coffee and brings it to me in bed. He also sets out my vitamins each morning. When I get home he always greets me with a hug and a kiss, he tells me literally every day that I am beautiful and how much he loves me, he gives me massages that last for an hour, he helps with the kids and with the household chores whenever he can so that when the weekend comes we are able to spend time together and not have to spend the entire weekend doing house hold chores.
I wake up each morning and go to bed each night feeling loved and appreciated and wanted and I feel that for him in return. That is the way it should be. I never knew that all of those emotions were important to me before. I made justifications why those details did not matter. Being with mark has taught me never to settle and to be thankful I finally have a good man. I hope you do too.