How Many Times?

So I have a dilemma that I thought I would share. As I have shared previously when we were trying to get Rebecca’s biological mother to relinquish her parental rights so that we could adopt her we went to mediation. During the mediation we agreed to quarterly updates for all three kids as long as she kept her part of the agreement. She disappeared therefor it voided the mediation agreement. We tracked her down a while ago gave her another shot and she said she would like to get updates again. We agreed as long as she gave us something that we wanted which was a medical history on her and what she knew about the kid’s biological fathers. She had agreed but never got anything from her.

I found her on Facebook back in November and said that I finally found her again did she want updates again. Then nothing from her I waited a month sent another email saying I was deleting the face book account that I contacted her through. Still nothing, the holidays came and went and I had seen her on Face book again and sent one last email. Telling her I am deleting the account Friday if I did not get the information from her I was requesting.

Am I being too harsh? I just don’t get it if I was her I would want as much information as possible. I would also not have lost any pictures of the kids that I was given. She has said that she no longer has the pictures or video that we have sent her before she disappeared and wanted me to resend them. Really? If all you have is pictures I cannot imagine losing them.

How many times should I keep tracking her down? Should I just think well she does not really want information and pictures because if she did she would not disappear?

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About Tammy Woolard

My name is Tammy and I am 40 year old mother of 3 wonderful children who came to us through domestic adoption. Although we did not have any fertility issues we chose adoption because there are so many kids that did not ask to be born but truly want a family to love. We did research on adoption choices and decided on domestic adoption through CPS. You would be surprised the differences between each agency. The adoption process is nothing like you see in the movies. I am also a 5 year breast cancer survivor. When I was diagnosed my kids were 3, 5 and 7 I did so much research I may have driven my Dr. a little crazy but that is ok it is my body not his.