If You Knew Then, What You Know Now ….

You often hear people comment, “If I knew then, what I know now, I’d never have ….” I have had great reason to consider these words over the years and occasionally I think about the idea that I might have done something differently, yet the truth is – knowing what I know now? I wouldn’t change a thing. Because all the decisions I made in the past – the good ones and the bad ones – led me to right where I am.

First Married

Sure, if you look back to how you may have handled your first disagreement, it would be fun to change that. If for no other reason than after 11 years together and 8 years of marriage, I know a little bit more about handling and resolving relationship conflict than I did those first years. I know more about trying to be reasonable rather than trying to win the fight.

Yet, ultimately, each and every decision brought me to the place I am now, with the daughter I have now. I could have enlisted in the army at 23, I didn’t. Instead I ended up in Virginia where I met my husband and the father of my child. I could have gone to the Air Force Academy, but I ultimately elected against it – apparently at about the same time as my future husband did. (Coincidence?)

I could have avoided leaping before I looked when I was 22 and moving on the spur of the moment to California, but without that leaping and charge ahead, I would never have taken that opportunity to move to Virginia.

Weak Moments

Sure in a weak moment or a moment of frustration, considering the things I could have done differently does occur to me, but then I hear my daughter laugh or my husband walks into the room and I know – I wouldn’t change a thing for fear that it would change what I have now.

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About Heather Long

Heather Long is 35 years old and currently lives in Wylie, Texas. She has been a freelance writer for six years. Her husband and she met while working together at America Online over ten years ago. They have a beautiful daughter who just turned five years old. She is learning to read and preparing for kindergarten in the fall. An author of more than 300 articles and 500+ web copy pieces, Heather has also written three books as a ghostwriter. Empty Canoe Publishing accepted a novel of her own. A former horse breeder, Heather used to get most of her exercise outside. In late 2004, early 2005 Heather started studying fitness full time in order to get herself back into shape. Heather worked with a personal trainer for six months and works out regularly. She enjoys shaking up her routine and checking out new exercises. Her current favorites are the treadmill (she walks up to 90 minutes daily) and doing yoga for stretching. She also performs strength training two to three times a week. Her goals include performing in a marathon such as the Walk for Breast Cancer Awareness or Team in Training for Lymphoma research. She enjoys sharing her knowledge and experience through the fitness and marriage blogs.