As we look to this year of 2011 and wonder what joys and sorrows it will bring, we need to remember that for those of us who are married, we are facing this year as a couple not as an individual. Perhaps if we were more conscious of being part of a couple, we would be less inclined to make independent decisions without actually asking or caring what our partner thinks about it.
A rule that I see as being a useful one in marriage is letting love be your guide. Let love be your guide when you are tempted to an angry or hasty response. It may be that if you changed your tone and expression and actions to ones of love, you will have more hope not only of attracting the attention of your spouse but maintaining their attention. The man or woman who is happy in their marriage and has their needs met within the sanctity of marriage, I believe is not going to be tempted to want to stray. Why? Because they have all they need right where they are. They are content within the framework of marriage. There’s no need for them to look elsewhere.
On the other hand, the man or woman who is neglected by their spouse and is not shown love and affection is more likely to go looking for it elsewhere.
So this year it seems to me that a good rule would be let love be your guide. Let love guide your words and actions towards your spouse and with your family. Let love guide you when you need to stop and think and calm down perhaps before you speak and respond with words that are not helpful or encouraging.
Let love guide you as to whether you are to busy with other things to spend time with your spouse. Let love guide you so that you and your spouse spend more time together and talk more and enjoy being together.
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