Nature seems to reward those who love life and are optimistic. Studies from the Yale University indicate that people who are optimistic in middle age tend to live seven years (or more) longer than those who only look on the down side. Why? Researchers from the University of Kentucky think it’s the stress factor. Optimists do get stressed, but they also tend to turn it around quickly and get back to a positive state of mind.
So how do you become an optimist if you aren’t one already? There are four habits you can adopt that can make a big difference.
- Be connected. A thriving social network can really raise your outlook on life! People who socialize once a week or more tend to live longer, have fewer memory issues, and have fewer heart attacks. Talking to a friend can lower blood pressure and stress hormone levels almost immediately. Research from UCLA indicates that a good social network can be as good for you as not smoking or being active regularly!
- Be thankful. I’ve noticed a bad habit in my personal journal — I tend to write only when I’ve got something to complain about. I don’t take enough time to record the happy things! Keeping track of the good in your life and the things you’re thankful for can help you be more satisfied with your life. Don’t make your thankfulness a chore — write about the good stuff at least once a week, or more if it feels right.
- Be kind. Five acts of kindness in a day can really boost your sense of well being. Think about the idea of karma: if you put good out into the world, good comes back to you. Don’t force the kindness, and don’t make it a chore. Little kindnesses — like letting someone with one item go ahead of you and your full cart at the grocery store — are great!
- Be active. If there’s something you feel bad or pessimistic about, don’t just complain. Do something! Get engaged and be passionate about your cause. This is sometimes called “active pessimism”.
- Take stock of your life. Reflect on your experiences — maybe write them down in a journal. You may find a new perspective on long-ago events as you review your life. And you’ll be making a record you can hand down to family members if you like. Look at the good and the bad times, and see how they all added up to the amazing person you are today.