It’s very easy for people to sit in judgment on others. We can look at their choices and be critical that they have not made wise decisions. We can look at their marriages and think that they are not doing the right thing. We can look at the way they bring up their children and not think they are going about it the right way.
But when it all comes down it, marriage and parenting is about making the decisions that are right for you and your spouse and right for you and your family. Whether they are what your parents did or your best friend or sister or some other sibling did is immaterial. What matters is that you are making decisions as a couple based in the information you have at hand and the things you feel strongly about.
On that note Tristi is going to be giving another view different to mine in baby in bed, and that’s fine. I’m sure it will make interesting reading.
Each of us is coming from a different background, with different life experiences, and day I say different personalities. I think it comes back to knowing yourself and what you can cope with, as well as knowing your spouse. Just because your best friend or mother or mother in law doesn’t agree with you doesn’t mean they are necessarily right and you are wrong.
Yes, it’s good to share our experiences of marriage and family life, to share ways of doing things but we should never be so dogmatic we assume our way is the only way and that everyone should adhere to what we do or did. In the end what this site is about is sharing our experiences and ideas and opinions so people can weigh them up along with their own views and make an informed decision with their spouse about what they will do. What counts most is that you and your spouse talk things over and make decisions together that are right for you.
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