Making Marriages Last: What’s It Going to Take? My Interview with Mrs. Hawes

I think I may have mentioned before that I’m a fan of a show on Sci Fi called Ghost Hunters. (See: The Things He Does for Love: Ghost Hunting Classes.) Well, as fate would have it, someone very near and dear to one of the show’s stars agreed to an interview: Mrs. Hawes, wife of Jason Hawes, one of the founders of The Atlantic Paranormal Society (TAPS). And what better time of year than now to post it!

But before I get there, let me explain how it came to be that I approached her for an interview…

Some Background

As I told Mrs. Hawes, part of why I like the show so much (aside from the fact I dig the scientific approach Jason Hawes and Grant Wilson, co-founder of TAPS, and their team apply to looking for ghosts) is that these guys come off as what my folks would call “good people.”

I think that’s a big part of the show’s appeal, in fact. These guys are hugely popular, have quite the fan base, but they try to make themselves as accessible and approachable as possible. They’re not in it for the fame or TV time. They truly care about doing justice to furthering paranormal science, and aren’t letting their media success go to their head as some others might.

In fact, they’re all about “family first.” It’s a motto they declare time and again on the show.

Sound familiar? epitomizes “family first,” doesn’t it?

Accentuating the Positive

Part of why I love working for so much is because families are priority one. I like that a TV show emphasizes that too. Sets a good example, which this world is desperately in need of.

When I found out that Mr. and Mrs. Hawes have known each other as long as Wayne and I have, I got an idea.

Because we hear so much about marriages failing, people come to expect that’s what marriages are supposed to do. But what if we start expecting marriages to succeed?

What if we have more examples of real-life relationships that have made it past the tender first year, the seven year itch, and into the great beyond?

What if we had real conversations with real people who are doing the best they can, are learning from their mistakes, and are consciously working at making their marriages well…work?

The Result

We’d have positive examples to emulate our own successes on.

So I decided to start examining real relationships, with real problems, that have known turmoil as well as joys, that have lasted a long time and are continuing to go the distance.

That’s why I was thrilled when Mrs. Hawes, a marriage veteran, agreed to consider my request for an interview to share her insights about how her and Jason do it.

I’ll be posting it soon. Stay tuned.

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