A few months ago, I suggested this exercise in order to understand the value of your spouse. As we approach Thanksgiving, understanding and appreciating the value of our spouse is very important. So remember, we all have bad days, individually and as a marriage. There are days when our stress and irritation can make clicking and connecting with each other seem impossible.
There are going to be days when it’s hard to remember what drew the two of you together. There are going to be days when it’s even harder. These are the days that we need this exercise more than any other. So as you get ready to head out for your holiday trips and you cope with the holiday stress, keep this exercise in mind:
What Do They Mean To Me? exercise. What is this exercise? It’s a mental and physical one you do with some pen and paper if you have it handy. If not a computer will do or you can just make a mental list – it’s better to write it down, but sometimes you just have to work with what you got.
Here are a few tips on how to do this exercise:
- Write down his or her name
- Write down a list of positive aspects using the letters from his or her name
- Write a short paragraph about how you met
- Write a description of the first time you knew you loved them
- Write about the first date you shared
- Write about a funny memory you shared
- Write down a thought you want to share with your husband or wife
When you have written all this down, share it with your spouse. This exercise helps you to remember your positive feelings and thoughts with regard to the person you married. It reminds you of what they mean to you. When you share it with your spouse, you are telling them what they mean to you. It’s a revealing and precious exercise and hopefully it will bring you both closer together.
So, what do they mean to you?