Marriage Exercises: Understanding His or Her Value

A few months ago, I suggested this exercise in order to understand the value of your spouse. As we approach Thanksgiving, understanding and appreciating the value of our spouse is very important. So remember, we all have bad days, individually and as a marriage. There are days when our stress and irritation can make clicking and connecting with each other seem impossible.

There are going to be days when it’s hard to remember what drew the two of you together. There are going to be days when it’s even harder. These are the days that we need this exercise more than any other. So as you get ready to head out for your holiday trips and you cope with the holiday stress, keep this exercise in mind:

What Do They Mean To Me? exercise. What is this exercise? It’s a mental and physical one you do with some pen and paper if you have it handy. If not a computer will do or you can just make a mental list – it’s better to write it down, but sometimes you just have to work with what you got.

Here are a few tips on how to do this exercise:

  • Write down his or her name
  • Write down a list of positive aspects using the letters from his or her name
  • Write a short paragraph about how you met
  • Write a description of the first time you knew you loved them
  • Write about the first date you shared
  • Write about a funny memory you shared
  • Write down a thought you want to share with your husband or wife

When you have written all this down, share it with your spouse. This exercise helps you to remember your positive feelings and thoughts with regard to the person you married. It reminds you of what they mean to you. When you share it with your spouse, you are telling them what they mean to you. It’s a revealing and precious exercise and hopefully it will bring you both closer together.

So, what do they mean to you?

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About Heather Long

Heather Long is 35 years old and currently lives in Wylie, Texas. She has been a freelance writer for six years. Her husband and she met while working together at America Online over ten years ago. They have a beautiful daughter who just turned five years old. She is learning to read and preparing for kindergarten in the fall. An author of more than 300 articles and 500+ web copy pieces, Heather has also written three books as a ghostwriter. Empty Canoe Publishing accepted a novel of her own. A former horse breeder, Heather used to get most of her exercise outside. In late 2004, early 2005 Heather started studying fitness full time in order to get herself back into shape. Heather worked with a personal trainer for six months and works out regularly. She enjoys shaking up her routine and checking out new exercises. Her current favorites are the treadmill (she walks up to 90 minutes daily) and doing yoga for stretching. She also performs strength training two to three times a week. Her goals include performing in a marathon such as the Walk for Breast Cancer Awareness or Team in Training for Lymphoma research. She enjoys sharing her knowledge and experience through the fitness and marriage blogs.