Are you on the same wave length as your spouse? Can you read the signs and body language without them saying too much? Yesterday we had such a situation.
In the early afternoon I went out to my husband in the garden and said, ‘What are you going to do this afternoon?‘
He mentioned a few things that needed doing and asked me what I planned to do. I also mentioned a few things I needed to get to. The trouble was it was such a beautiful sunny day I didn’t feel like being stuck inside doing them. However I came back in and started.
A few minutes later Mick came in and suggested we go and get a coffee at my favorite coffee shop and walk along the beach. You see, without me having said anything he’d picked up that I was bored and wanted to get out of the house. A few minutes later we left.
We got the coffee, walked along the beach and the rocks, just basically enjoying being out in the sunshine. To top the day off, we spotted a pod of our resident dolphins playing in the bay. We sat on the bench overlooking the water and watched them for a while and just chatted. It was a very pleasant afternoon.
We also passed a number of like minded couples hand in hand wandering along the shore.
People could say it’s because we’ve been married so long, we can read each other so well. But I’m more inclined to think we’ve always been that way. It’s being perceptive and being in tune with each other.
In the evening we watched a couple of DVDs. One was a love story I ended up shedding tears over. The other a guy movie with lots of car chases. It was a pleasant end to a relaxing time in tune with each other.
Today the work that should have been done will get done. The work and household jobs will wait. Our relationship is what matters most.
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