Looking for ways of recreating romance? Sometimes life just gets in the way. There are so many things that must be done and so many things that don’t seem to be able to get finished, where is there time in all of this for romance? The kids have soccer practice. There are work requirements. There are responsibilities around the home. There is always something else that seems more important. Yet, the problem with this is, though, that nothing is as important as your relationship with your spouse.
If You Can Fit It In, Schedule It In
If you are having that moment of clarity that says that it’s time that romance starts to reenter your life, then find ways to make it happen. If you can not find the time to spend together otherwise, try scheduling it in. Before you worry about all of those engagements, plan for romance first. Mark off of each of your calendars one night a week that you will spend together. Perhaps you can get a sitter for the kids that night or you can just plan to make sure they are in bed early that night. Whatever it is, find a way to make this a regular habit for you two.
Couples that are more romantic are those that have a stronger bond to each other. Many times life gets in the way, this is true, but that does not mean it has to be in the way all the time. Studies have shown that when couples just spend more time together, alone they are better prepared for their week.
They can take this time to get onto the same page with each other so that things run more smoothly.
They can take this time to work out small problems should they arise.
They are providing themselves with down time. It is good for the high stressed individual to have down time so that they can regroup for their own needs.
Romance can help to improve the way that people see and interact with each other.
Add It In
You can add romance into your life again in small, simple things. All it takes is a little creative thinking (or reading) to learn what you can do to make your marriage stronger through romancing it. Start with a simple note of love, of thanks and of sweet things. Praise him for his accomplishments. Tell her that she looks beautiful even on her worst day. These are easy ways to get romance going. Small things make it even more alluring.
Then, build up to a dinner out. Ask her on a date. Ask him to go to dinner with you. There are many things that can be done to make a marriage stronger through something as simplistic as romance. Eventually, romance can entail a weekend away or a special weekend together. Sure, at first you’ll need to plan it in and you may even feel awkward with doing it. But, eventually, romance will be something that you look forward to doing for your spouse.