Relationships are a Two-Person Thing

When two people meet, enjoy each other’s company and find themselves in what we call a relationship there will inevitably come a time when one or both of the couple feel like something is missing. This is as natural to the evolution of relationships as the first date, the first kiss, the first fight and the first make-up. While counseling might be the politically correct way to handle issues that seem beyond a person, the first stop in relationship counseling is to take care of yourself.

Relationships are a two-person thing. No person can tell another what is best for them, what works for them, how to handle their emotions or what insecurities they are experiencing. So the first step in any relationship issues to make sure you work on you. The truth is we bring who we are into our relationships, if we are unhappy – another person can’t just snap their fingers and make us happy. If we’re uncertain, if we don’t trust them, if we have massive doubts about their sincerity, they can’t undo that.

As we mature from children to teenagers to adults, our relationships mature and change. What we find attractive in others when we are in our teens may not remain attractive in our late twenties and early thirties. The key to knowing if you and your partner are working well together is to always work on yourself. Relationships are about people, not self-help books or the back cover of a romance novel.

Relationship counseling starts by being happy, two happy people together are more likely to be happy in each other than they are if they are miserable. Does this mean you can’t share your problems with your partner? Of course you can share your problems, confide in them and tell them your secrets, but you can’t fix all their problems nor can they fix all of yours. Support, love and respect are fundamental in relationships.

How do you and your spouse support each other?

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About Heather Long

Heather Long is 35 years old and currently lives in Wylie, Texas. She has been a freelance writer for six years. Her husband and she met while working together at America Online over ten years ago. They have a beautiful daughter who just turned five years old. She is learning to read and preparing for kindergarten in the fall. An author of more than 300 articles and 500+ web copy pieces, Heather has also written three books as a ghostwriter. Empty Canoe Publishing accepted a novel of her own. A former horse breeder, Heather used to get most of her exercise outside. In late 2004, early 2005 Heather started studying fitness full time in order to get herself back into shape. Heather worked with a personal trainer for six months and works out regularly. She enjoys shaking up her routine and checking out new exercises. Her current favorites are the treadmill (she walks up to 90 minutes daily) and doing yoga for stretching. She also performs strength training two to three times a week. Her goals include performing in a marathon such as the Walk for Breast Cancer Awareness or Team in Training for Lymphoma research. She enjoys sharing her knowledge and experience through the fitness and marriage blogs.