It is important to reach out in fellowship to all of the sisters in Relief Society. We can never be sure of the experiences that they are going through or the heartache that they are carrying with them. It is important to think carefully about what you say to other sand how you reach out to include them.
One type of sister is the brand new sister to Relief Society. This may mean that she has just graduated from high school and is moving up from young women’s. She may feel awkward among all the grown-ups and unsure of what she should do. She may be uncertain of how she should handle herself in Relief Society. Another brand new sister is the recent convert or the less active sister coming back. Both of these sisters may need extra support and friendship. It can be very lonely to sit by yourself in Relief Society, when everyone around you is talking and laughing.
The other type of sister that we should keep in mind is the one that seems to isolate herself. Sometimes these sisters may have a more abrasive personality, and are simply afraid of offending someone unintentionally. Or this sister may be awkward in social situations and trying desperately to hide it from others. This sister may be going through an extremely difficult time and may have a hard time speaking about anything without breaking down, and so chooses to be quiet for the time. A simple hello and questions letting them no you care can go help make the situation better.
I remember my first time in Relief Society. It was difficult because the ward boundaries had changed the week before, and I was coming back from being inactive for over six months. The Relief Society president was newly called, but she went out of her way to make me feel welcome. She was also my visiting teacher, and helped me to really appreciate the blessings of visiting teaching again. She was a mentor when I needed one the most. Other ward members said hello and I felt welcome. We can all reach out to those around us and help them feel welcome as well.
Relief Society: Welcoming Everyone
Young Women: The Transition to Relief Society