I’ll never forget when it came to the end of a previous long term relationship. I found myself irritated all of the time and sometimes even downright mean. Although I didn’t realize it at the time, I has grown to resent other person and the relationship. In that case, I wasn’t married, but had I been, it would have been very important to recognize the signs early enough to take action.
Many times we blow off the little things that are actually big things in disguise.
You may resent your spouse..
If you start to dread coming home to your spouse or even finding yourself in the same room or at the same event.
You criticize your spouse in public or with friends.
You try to avoid talking to your spouse at all costs, because it will probably lead to conflict. Even if it doesn’t, you’ve run out of interesting things to say to each other.
You aren’t sure if you even like your spouse anymore of if he or she likes you.
You don’t believe that great marriages actually exist.
You feel disappointed or hollow inside, although you may not know why.
You are more likely to turn to a friend or even an acquaintance with positive or negative news, rather than talk to your spouse.
You feel a temptation to cheat, physically or emotionally, and this isn’t a good feeling for you.
You don’t feel any respect for your spouse and tend to concentrate on all of his or her faults.
You find yourself hating little things about your spouse that you once thought were endearing.
When a discussion needs to be had or a decision needs to be made, you look at it as a competition or battle where one of you will win against the other. You brace yourself for a fight over everyday household decision.
Mary Ann Romans writes about everything related to saving money in the Frugal Blog, creating a home in the Home Blog, caring for little ones in the Baby Blog and now relationships in the Marriage Blog. You can read more of her articles by clicking here.