Mother daughter relationships can sometimes be a minefield, especially after you are an adult with children of your own. You may feel that you are walking a tightrope between being an adult and being your mother’s child. At no time is this truer than when you become a single mother. Everyone wants their mother to be proud of them so you may already feel like you’ve let your mother down by getting divorced. I know the guilt I feel for being divorced makes me want to be perfect at everything else. Perfect mother, perfect daughter, and perfect friend.
Sadly, no one is perfect, we are all doing the best we can, every single day. Why, as daughters do we feel that our mother’s judge us? In the same situation would we judge our child? Of course not, we love our children, we know they will make mistakes we just hope they learn from them and move on. It’s kind of funny that as adults we don’t expect that our mother’s feel about us the same way we feel about our children. We need to remember, we are their child, and once upon a time depended on them for everything. Would it really be so bad to lean on Mom just a little now?
I know that as Hailey get’s older I want her to be able to talk to me without feeling judged. I’m sure my mother has never wanted me to feel anyway but loved and accepted. I’m the one who wanted to be the perfect daughter and show her what a good job I’m doing as a mother.
Sometimes we can’t do it all. We need someone to talk to, someone to give us advice, or just listen. Who better than our own mothers? They wiped our tears, cleaned our bottoms, taught us manners and a million other things.
There really isn’t anyone in this world who is rooting for us and wants us to succeed more than our mothers. Just like with our childrens, our mother’s only want the best for us. When did we stop believing they were in our corner? I’m sure they would like the chance to help us through the challenge of raising our children alone, if only we would let them.