Quite simply I’ve had enough. I am fed up! If you want to know why, read on.
No, I’m not fed up with my marriage or Mick. I am fed up with the negative attitude towards marriage, with people taking pot shots, laughing and making negative comments about marriage. I am quite simply fed up with the negative press and comments marriage receives, from acclaimed writers to the average person in the street.
Even last night while watching The First Tuesday Book Club there was a quote about marriage which came from the novel by Giuseppe Tomasi di Lampedusa author of The Leopard, a book I admit I have not read, and probably after hearing the comments, will not. They referenced the quote about marriage although other sites have it as love, ‘Flames for a year, ashes for thirty.’ What a sad and cynical view of marriage and love.
Well, I don’t know about you, although sometimes reading the forums it seems some people agree with that, but I don’t find marriage to be a burden or a negative in my life, but a joy.
I’m not like the woman the other day who told me she wished she hadn’t married her husband. I’m glad I married mine and want to stay married to him until death parts us. Yes, an old fashioned idea I know. But sometimes the old fashioned ideas make sense.
So what do I love I about marriage? I love having someone to share things and talk things over with. I love curling up together in bed at night. I love that we have common interests and can enjoy some activities together, while we have enough activities separate to also enjoy. I love being able to share laughter and happy times as well as the hard and the sad times. I love the feel of his arms around me. I love his encouragement and support and am glad that I can respond similarly when he needs it.
I love that in some ways we are so different and yet in others we are so in tune with each other. I could go on and on but you get the picture – I’m happy in my marriage.
On that note, let me make a suggestion. Maybe it’s time instead of focusing on the negatives of marriage and making snide remarks about it to our friends, family and neighbors, we all tried to present a positive attitude to marriage.
Who knows? Those of you are who are finding it tough and a hard slog at present, if you focused on the positives you might actually find that as your attitude changes other things in the marriage begin to change as well. Isn’t it worth a try?