Have you ever wondered why your husband or wife reacts the way they do to certain things? Or why your mother-in-law or boss just rub you the wrong way? “The Color Code” by Dr. Taylor Hartman presents a fascinating way to look at human nature, that of dividing people up into four major categories based on personality types and learning how to deal with them based on the category they belong to.
The four groups are represented by the colors red, blue, white, and yellow. You are dominantly one color, but you’ll have a smattering of the other colors mixed throughout.
Red – The persons represented by the color red are the strong-willed, powerful, determined people who know what they want and forge forward to get it. Business tycoons are frequently red. On the positive side, reds can create change and see projects through to fruition. On the other hand, they are sometimes so task-oriented and focused on their goals that they can trample people under them along the way.
Blue – Blues are the people who are sympathetic toward others and who are motivated by friendships. They are the ones to bring you a casserole when you’re sick, but they are also the ones who feel guilty over every little thing and worry obsessively.
White – If you hate confrontation and would go around the block to avoid an argument, you just may be a white. Whites are motivated by peace. They would rather suffer in silence than to cause a scene, but at the same time, their emotions build and they react passive aggressively.
Yellow – yellows just want to have fun! They are naturally happy, always looking for the positive in other people and situations, and they never seem to take things too seriously. This can create some problems, though, as they can be disorganized, a little absent-minded and, well, I hate to say it, but flighty.
As you can see, each of the colors has positive and negative traits. The ultimate goal is to emphasize the positives and work on eliminating the negatives. The personalities also have their own motivating factors – red is for power, blue is for relationships, whites want peace, and yellows want fun, so if you’re dealing with someone and need to know how to reach them, you can appeal to them using their motivating factor.
As I mentioned, we are all a combination of colors. I am a blue/red, which means that when I took the test in the book, I scored highest in blue and second highest in red. My scores on these were almost even. Next came yellow, and I had only one white point. I am motivated by love and relationships, but I also like to be in charge. My blue and my red are at war with each other quite a bit – I’ll take the bull by the horns and complete a project, and then I’ll sit and worry if I offended anyone while I did it! But now that I know I’m a blue/red, and can attribute my reactions to my inherent personality, I can understand myself better. Reading this book has helped me understand my husband (red/white) daughter (blue/white) son (red/blue) son (blue/white.) I have one more son, but he’s two and has yet to decide who he’s going to be.
This book is not only informative, but fun. You take a test in the front, answering each question honestly, and then as you tally up your score you find out just what color you are. Tips are given for how to communicate with a person of another personality type, as well as examples of how to deal with the issues you carry yourself. I’m so glad to have happened upon this helpful book.
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