The Importance of Your Date Night

We spend a lot of time here – okay, I spend a lot of time here discussing different date night ideas, offering suggestions and even discussing films and television shows that might be selected for date night viewing. Why is date night so important to married couples?

Because many of us are often so busy that we forget that having fun with each other is as important as being able to discuss what is troubling us, paying our bills, getting the household chores done and more. In fact, without the ability to have fun together – our marriage and time together becomes synonymous with arduous labor.

Making the Time

Life is not a cake walk and rarely is it easy. We have work, commitments, children, obligations, and we even have personal interests that we may or may not share with our spouses. When you get up in the morning and your day is a series of completed tasks and attended events, by the time evening arrives – exhaustion coupled with the need for some alone time can actually hamper your ability to enjoy your spouse.

For many married couples, their first taste of this is after their first child is born. While the birth of a baby can bring a couple together and can provide them with another deep, intimate connection – it also comes at a cost of personal time and freedom with each other. Mothers who spend their day in constant loving labor to their infants, attached – touching and being touched – may resist being touched by others simply to reclaim some of their personal space.

It’s Not Rejection

Rejection is far too strong a word for what happens, but we all need our personal time. We need time to be us and we need time with our spouses. When your spouse calls you and you feel the immediate reluctance of: oh what now then you are more in need of a date night than you know. The date night is not about time to figure out how to divvy up household chores. Nor is it about discussing the latest antics of your child. It’s about you and your spouse.

It’s a time for the two of you to talk about dreams, to tell stories, to laugh and love and just be with each other. It is a time for you to do all of the things you remembered doing when you first became involved. It’s also a way to remember to appreciate the little gifts you bring to each other, to forget petty resentments and for a brief time – letting tomorrow take care of itself.

We’re going to talk more about date nights. We’re going to talk more about things we can do. We’re going to talk about keeping our marriage and relationships fit by tending to them – and what it means to tend to your marriage. When was the last time you and your spouse had a date night?

If it’s been longer than 3 weeks – then now is the time to make your plans – you both need that date night. How do you like to spend a date night together with your spouse?

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About Heather Long

Heather Long is 35 years old and currently lives in Wylie, Texas. She has been a freelance writer for six years. Her husband and she met while working together at America Online over ten years ago. They have a beautiful daughter who just turned five years old. She is learning to read and preparing for kindergarten in the fall. An author of more than 300 articles and 500+ web copy pieces, Heather has also written three books as a ghostwriter. Empty Canoe Publishing accepted a novel of her own. A former horse breeder, Heather used to get most of her exercise outside. In late 2004, early 2005 Heather started studying fitness full time in order to get herself back into shape. Heather worked with a personal trainer for six months and works out regularly. She enjoys shaking up her routine and checking out new exercises. Her current favorites are the treadmill (she walks up to 90 minutes daily) and doing yoga for stretching. She also performs strength training two to three times a week. Her goals include performing in a marathon such as the Walk for Breast Cancer Awareness or Team in Training for Lymphoma research. She enjoys sharing her knowledge and experience through the fitness and marriage blogs.