The Marriage Guide Book – What Every Husband Needs to Know

When you get married, wouldn’t it be nice if someone gave you a guide book that contained all the instructions you needed to transition from being single to married? The following is some top tips gathered from husbands about what you need to know when you get married.

  • Your wife is your partner. You have to treat her as such. You may want to protect her, but you should never take choices away.
  • Lying is never a good thing. Even little lies can come back to haunt you. Be honest about how you are feeling – your wife will appreciate that.
  • Understand that your wife is going through changes too. You may not be used to checking in with someone about your whereabouts, but she will appreciate it and so will you when she does the same.
  • Financial control issues are the root of a lot of marital problems. Make it a rule that you should both be involved in large financial decisions. Discuss ways to keep each other in the loop.
  • Socially, you both had relationships prior to the marriage. Friendships are important, but if your wife is uncomfortable with any of those prior relationships, discuss ways you can make her more comfortable.
  • Merging lives has its own challenges, avoid excluding each other even if you always used to do something a certain way before. Give your wife an option to join you now.
  • You want her to respect your needs, so you need to respect hers. If she needs to make lists to detail how things will be handled, support that. You will both benefit from mutual respect.
  • Communication is the key in the first months of marriage. It’s easy to get caught back up into the rhythms of life and to forget that there is someone else to consider, talk before and after the wedding about your expectations, dreams and goals.
  • Saying I love you, never gets old. Showing your affection with little gestures and thoughtful gifts of appreciation are excellent ways to maintain the romance.

As a husband, what other tips can you offer to other newly married men?

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About Heather Long

Heather Long is 35 years old and currently lives in Wylie, Texas. She has been a freelance writer for six years. Her husband and she met while working together at America Online over ten years ago. They have a beautiful daughter who just turned five years old. She is learning to read and preparing for kindergarten in the fall. An author of more than 300 articles and 500+ web copy pieces, Heather has also written three books as a ghostwriter. Empty Canoe Publishing accepted a novel of her own. A former horse breeder, Heather used to get most of her exercise outside. In late 2004, early 2005 Heather started studying fitness full time in order to get herself back into shape. Heather worked with a personal trainer for six months and works out regularly. She enjoys shaking up her routine and checking out new exercises. Her current favorites are the treadmill (she walks up to 90 minutes daily) and doing yoga for stretching. She also performs strength training two to three times a week. Her goals include performing in a marathon such as the Walk for Breast Cancer Awareness or Team in Training for Lymphoma research. She enjoys sharing her knowledge and experience through the fitness and marriage blogs.