I was heartbroken over my divorce. I still remember driving to the lawyer’s office with tears streaming down my face. I was devastated. Logan was sitting quietly in the back seat, the weight of the world was on my shoulders. That little boy meant everything to me. I could see the pain in his eyes, even though he didn’t fully understand what was going on at the time. His little life was being turned upside down because of choices he had no part of.
I sat in front of that office with what seemed like an ocean of tears running down my face, wondering how in the world we could possibly be putting our little boy through this. As I was running through a hundred different scenarios in my head a familiar song began playing in the car. I vividly remember turning and looking at Logan, who was holding his little blankie in his arms, and knowing that it was going to be ok. I now refer to this song as “our divorce song.”
Kenny Loggins wrote “The Real Thing” back in 1991 for his daughter during his own divorce. As a parent it is incredibly difficult to watch our children suffering for our decisions, even if we know without a doubt that they are the right ones. The pain doesn’t go away simply because it was right. This song illustrates beautifully the emotions that so many parents and children go through as they are grieving the divorce.
“I did it for you and the boys, because love should teach you joy and not the imitation that your momma and daddy tried to show you. I did it for you and for me and because I still believe there’s only one thing that you can never give up, never compromise on, and that’s the real thing you need in love.” We did it for you Logan, we did it for you.