Taking care of a loved one or family member can be incredibly difficult and unrewarding. The stress of being a caretaker can be incredible, and seemingly unending.
First and foremost, you need to make sure you get some time for yourself. You can’t neglect your own needs just because you are taking care of someone else. Stress and frustration levels will just keep going up unless you take a little time alone to recharge your batteries.
What else can you do to make caretaker duties a little easier?
- Have realistic expectations. You aren’t perfect. The person you are taking care of isn’t perfect either.
- Focus on the positive. Acknowledge what your family member or loved one is doing well.
- Watch your language. Don’t blame your family member or loved one — chances are, they didn’t choose to need your care. Try to not be negative in how you talk.
- Go to doctor appointments together so you know exactly what’s going on with your loved one or family member.
- Learn about the disease or condition you are dealing with. The more you know about what is happening, the better you can understand.
- Figure out relaxing, stress-free activities you can do together. My grandmother and I watch Jeopardy together almost every night.
- Figure out exercises you can do together. It’s hard enough to fit workout time into your day — even harder if you have another person to take care of. If you can get moving together, that’s good for BOTH of you.
- Forgive yourself for the times when you lose your temper, or don’t do something “right”. Realize that you are doing the best that you can.
- Ask for help when you need it. Don’t feel guilty about turning to another family member or friend for assistance.
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