When one hears the word abuse or someone who has been abused, they usually think of someone with bruises and broken bones. Yet abuse can go much deeper than the skin and bones.
Abuse does not have to be a physical attack. It can be a mental and an emotional attack. Abuse does have to hurt the body, it can also hurt the mind and the sole.
Many people, including husbands, do not consider words to be abusive. As the saying goes “stick and stones…” However, words can be very hurtful and harmful.
Many women are in an abusive relationship. They may never be hit or physically harmed but they are degraded and downed and ridiculed by their partner. They are in a verbally abusive relationship.
During verbal abuse, men often degrade the women by judging their appearance, their household skills, their duties as a wife, and their duties as a mother. The women hear the comments so often that they begin to believe that maybe their spouse or mate is right. They begin to question their own worth.
These women often do not consider their relationship to be bad. After being told time after time that they are worthless, the women begin to believe that they are. They feel thankful that their mate stays with. They feel and believe that they can do no better. Because of their low self-esteem, they see no hope in making it on their own.
These women often stop doing the things that they enjoy because they feel that the things that they like are wrong. They do not question the comments or judgments of their husband. They submit to his wishes and desires.
Like women in physically abusive relationships, these women need help. They need guidance and direction. They need love and understanding and counseling.
Verbal abusive is real. It is harmful to a marriage, to a relationship, and to an individual.
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