Romantic ideas sell more magazines, books and movies than sex. It should be telling that most people can figure out the latter, but the former should be offered at college level as a required course. The final wouldn’t even have to be a test, because life will offer enough pop quizzes on romance to fill an entire issue of just about any woman’s magazine.
When men and women come together in relationships, they are often looking for partners that share common interests, common goals and with whom they wouldn’t mind seeing at 5 a.m. with no sleep and hair that looks like it was teased to stand that straight up.
What that means is that people are looking for someone who will nurture them and when people nurture another in that sense, it’s called romance. It’s not about taking care of someone when they are sick, but that’s a part of it.
It’s not just about sending flowers, but that’s a part of it. It is not about remembering birthdays, anniversaries or holidays. The best romantic ideas are the genuine ones. A note left in a book someone is reading, on a pillow or on the bathroom mirror. A pot of coffee that’s ready to be brewed or a lunch sent to the office. A pay-per-view movie that a phone call can elicit for a lover who’s sick and can’t get out of the house much.
Romance isn’t just jewels and flowers; it’s thoughtfulness and consideration. Authors of romance novels have known for years that the most romantic ideas are born from thinking beyond oneself and about the person you love. A poem, a compliment or a small token of affection that has some personal value to it carry with them the thought as well as the intention.
In some small way, it’s like the difference between finding an item or a gift certificate; yet — for some people gift certificates allow them to choose for themselves and they love to receive them. There is a truism that it’s better to give than to receive. In romance, it is not the value of the gift, but the thought that goes with it. For romantic ideas are priceless, they have a value that is intensely personal to the couple that shares them.
Much like wedding rings, dresses, a napkin from the restaurant where a first date was held, a pressed flower from a corsage and the list goes on and on. Parents keep locks of their children’s hair from the first haircut; to a parent it is invaluable, yet to someone else – its just hair. Romantic ideas do not need a holiday like Valentine’s or Christmas to be expressed; the best romance is spontaneous and loving.
After all, a kiss is just a kiss and a smile is just a smile, but when you look into the smiling eyes that hold love, warmth and respect – doesn’t the kiss mean that much more?
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