Romance is something every marriage needs. I’m sure we’d all like to be romanced. It makes us feel good. But what exactly is romance? Ask a hundred people and you might come up with a hundred different answers.
To some people it is flowers and candlelit dinners and wine. To your neighbor or best friend romance might mean something quite different. Even to your spouse romance might be something different. Do you even know what your spouse finds romantic? If you don’t then it’s time you found out. You need to do more communication. Run a few suggestions by them. Ask them what they would consider romantic. You might be surprised.
When you know, then how about planning a romantic date night or a day where you are out to romance them? Remember though that you are setting out to please them. So, you need to make sure it meets their idea of romantic, which may not necessarily be the same as yours. If it is, great! If not, then keep in mind that the whole aim is to please them and make them feel romanced.
Sometimes romance might mean delving back into the past for a nostalgia night as Mick and I have done recently. Other times it might be just sitting with the lights down or in candlelight chatting about things that are important to you or watching a DVD or going on a picnic or doing something outside your normal routine. This is a good idea especially if you feel your marriage is getting into a rut and every day is the same old, same old, thing.
Maybe you might go on a balloon flight or parachute from a plane together or go caving. Of course if your spouse would be terrified by any of these options, then you’ll have to think of something less adventurous. If you’re looking for ideas you’ll find a whole range of them here.
Basically though the thing to keep in mind is that it is something outside the routine and something your spouse will find romantic.
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