What’s up with John and Jane?

Someone wrote me yesterday and asked me what was the story with John and Jane. Why was I devoting so many posts to their experiences? Part of the focus on John and Jane this week approaches marriage from an inside looking out perspective. You are being invited to view the marriage from their viewpoints while also being aware of their own thoughts.

John and Jane are not real people. They are, however, based on real people and real experiences. Marriage counseling can help couples retrieve themselves, their relationship and build a stronger foundation if they let it. That’s not to say that some marriages do not end, but it takes two people to make it work. That was the experience that John and Jane went through.

I am a big fan of fairytales. I love the idea that we can all live happily ever after. But happily ever after is not the end of the story, far from it – it’s closer to the beginning of the story. Marriage takes work. It takes commitment. It also needs both parties to be honest with each other and themselves.

So the story of John and Jane explores the concepts in marriage counseling and offers some suggestions, ideas and theories. Next week there will be some exercises and activities offered to give you a hand with your marriage. So enjoy the tale, explore the nuances and please keep up the comments. Marriage is not the cakewalk we’d all like it to be and arguing doesn’t mean your marriage isn’t working; arguments can be healthy for a marriage.

We’ll be talking about how and much more. So hang in there with John and Jane.

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About Heather Long

Heather Long is 35 years old and currently lives in Wylie, Texas. She has been a freelance writer for six years. Her husband and she met while working together at America Online over ten years ago. They have a beautiful daughter who just turned five years old. She is learning to read and preparing for kindergarten in the fall. An author of more than 300 articles and 500+ web copy pieces, Heather has also written three books as a ghostwriter. Empty Canoe Publishing accepted a novel of her own. A former horse breeder, Heather used to get most of her exercise outside. In late 2004, early 2005 Heather started studying fitness full time in order to get herself back into shape. Heather worked with a personal trainer for six months and works out regularly. She enjoys shaking up her routine and checking out new exercises. Her current favorites are the treadmill (she walks up to 90 minutes daily) and doing yoga for stretching. She also performs strength training two to three times a week. Her goals include performing in a marathon such as the Walk for Breast Cancer Awareness or Team in Training for Lymphoma research. She enjoys sharing her knowledge and experience through the fitness and marriage blogs.