The natural course of life seems to be to grow up, go to school and get an education, find a job, get married and have kids. Is there a right time to bring children into the world? How do you know when you’re ready?
Every couple is different. After all, sometimes you get pregnant before you even planned, so basically the child made the decision for you. At such a point, it’s more of a matter of getting yourself ready for major changes, but for couples who plan everything according to a schedule, determining the right time might be tricky.
Do you wait until you’re financially secure and out of debt? Most people never get there, so waiting for a date that may or may not come, might not be the best idea. Do you wait until the mother can stay home and raise the child? Once again, that may not be possible, though it may be desired. So, how do you know when the best time to conceive might be?
The best indicator for knowing when the time to conceive is that both the husband and wife are very sure this is what they both want. Finances may not be as perfect as they’d like, but their determination is. They know it’s the right time in the hearts, and they feel secure in their desire and purpose. Having children has always been something they’ve wanted in the future, and the future becomes a present time reality.
If both the husband and wife are at the right time and place in their careers and in their lives, they will feel better about moving forward to conceive a child. Another factor to consider besides finances is age. Some people don’t want to wait too long before having kids because women are racing against the clock. If you plan to have several kids, starting earlier might be best. Allowing a year or two (or more) between kids might be something to discuss as well.
If you’re still unsure about having kids, discuss it with your spouse. It just might not be the right time for you. Wait a few months and see how you feel later. Discuss the pros and cons and why you are hesitating. The main thing is to try to reach a mutual consensus.