When Should You be Informed?

During a teacher’s career he/she will encounter many different types of behavior issues and concerns from students. Some of which may tread on dangerous grounds such as those that tempt harassment.

For example, in my career I have experienced students who used inappropriate comments to another student. I have also experienced students who used inappropriate actions against another student.

Most of these acts were very innocent, especially those committed by small children. For example, just this week my school had a small child refer to taking off another child’s clothing. It is very likely that the student had no intentions or realistic thoughts about what he had said. Children get these ideas from television, older siblings, and uncareful adults.

There are also usually incidents where one kindergarten child kisses another. Yes, this can be considered sexual harassment. In addition, there is sometimes the kindergarten child that exposes himself to others.

These children are usually meaning no harm. Many times we are very comfortable in our homes about leaving bathroom doors open or running through the house in our undergarments. Many parents do not think about talking to their children about privacy when we are in other places than our homes.

There are also children who like to play violent games and act out actions with guns.

Schools are very quick to call parents and have these discussions with the children when one of the above acts is committed. However, schools are less reluctant to notify the parent of the “victim”. In some cases the school waits to see if the child mentions the situation to his/her parents. The thought is that if the child does not tell then the school will not worry with telling either.

So should parents be notified when their children are on the receiving end? For example, should you be notified if your child receives a comment such as, “I’m gonna shoot you” during an argument? Or do you want to know if your child hears bad language?

I think that a lot of the times it depends on the severity of the action. However, I do want to be informed if my child sees or hears something inappropriate. After being made aware of the situation I could discuss the issue with my child and hopefully keep my child from repeating the action that was heard or seen.

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