Why Do You Love Your Spouse?

You may think this is a stupid question, but it’s a real one. Take a moment and think about it. Why do you love your spouse? You tell them you love them every day, hopefully. You demonstrate it in small ways and through your gifts and your actions. But why do you love your spouse? Have you ever thought of telling them why you love them?

Write Them a Letter

Here is a thought this holiday season, sit down and write a letter and describe why you love your spouse. Tell them about their positive qualities, their caring qualities, and their loving qualities and tell them why you love them. Ask them sometime if they know why you love them – have you ever wondered when your spouse says they love you – why do they care about me so much?

In the beginning of most relationships, we often feel that way. We don’t always believe we are deserving of love and caring. We don’t always understand why this person feels this way about us and when that self-doubt creeps in – it can leave us focusing on all the little things that go wrong and on the fear we feel because we worry that some day they will wake up and realize that we’re not worth it.

If we feel that way – it’s not a hard leap to believe that our spouse may feel that way at time. Conflict is natural in any relationship and it’s easy to just focus on what’s wrong, instead of what’s right. So this holiday season, you should sit down and write your spouse a letter to tell them why you do love them. Describe to them your feelings and what it is about them that you love so deeply. Don’t bring the negative into it and don’t blame them for problems real or imagined – this is a letter about why you love them and not about what you are irritated about.

Trust me – your spouse will love it. So, why do you love your spouse?

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About Heather Long

Heather Long is 35 years old and currently lives in Wylie, Texas. She has been a freelance writer for six years. Her husband and she met while working together at America Online over ten years ago. They have a beautiful daughter who just turned five years old. She is learning to read and preparing for kindergarten in the fall. An author of more than 300 articles and 500+ web copy pieces, Heather has also written three books as a ghostwriter. Empty Canoe Publishing accepted a novel of her own. A former horse breeder, Heather used to get most of her exercise outside. In late 2004, early 2005 Heather started studying fitness full time in order to get herself back into shape. Heather worked with a personal trainer for six months and works out regularly. She enjoys shaking up her routine and checking out new exercises. Her current favorites are the treadmill (she walks up to 90 minutes daily) and doing yoga for stretching. She also performs strength training two to three times a week. Her goals include performing in a marathon such as the Walk for Breast Cancer Awareness or Team in Training for Lymphoma research. She enjoys sharing her knowledge and experience through the fitness and marriage blogs.