Writing about Adoption

I have been writing blogs since early this year. I have two that I have consistently posted on. One blog is about starting my In Home Wine Tasting Business and the other is Working Moms Wanted, which has information about looking for employment, whether outside or in the home from a mother’s perspective. I enjoy writing and when I discovered blogging I found it was a great way to express many of my thoughts.

Since I started blogging I have experimented with other topics to write about and have created additional blogs. I have not maintained those blogs consistently. I think it is because of the topic I chose. I just did not have enough information about the topic to make it go anywhere. However, the topic of adoption was always in the back of my mind. After all, I am an adoptive parent, had a great adoption experience and I would have a lot to write about. But yet there were things that held me back from doing so. I think primarily by writing about adoption I was afraid that it would become such a central theme of my family. Yes, Connor is adopted but did not I want to become a spokesperson for adoption. Although, it may not matter, now since Connor is only 15 months old, when he is older and understands adoption would I be stigmatizing him by writing about it? Am I saying “Hey everyone, my kid is adopted.” I will be the one pointing out that my child is different than other children.

This fear probably also had me putting off applying to conduct adoption home studies as well. Something initially I was excited to do as a means of employment before Connor was born. Also, adopting Connor was an experience where I had a large range of emotions throughout the process. Writing about certain aspects of adoption will have me visit those emotions again. Although, this is not a bad thing, since so many emotions were about joy and happiness. However, I do look at the larger picture as well. By writing about it I get to share with others who may be considering adoption, yet are still hesitating starting the process, about what a truly wonderful way to it is to build a family. I can also share with others useful information and possibly give directions for couples or others looking to adopt to take. Well, in the end the choice was made for me. Families.com asked me write about adoption. As well, I’m involved in the adoption community in other ways, including conducting adoption seminars and completing Home Studies.

When the time comes and Connor is old enough to ask about adoption and what I do for a living I will figure out how best to talk to him about it. But for now I’ll just write about adoption and my family’s experience in our adoption journey. I guess this means that everyone is going to have to stick around and keep reading for awhile to find out how I go about explaining it to him.

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About Kathy Sheldon

My name is Kathy Sheldon and I live in Northern NJ with my husband, Jeff, my 15 month old son, Connor, two cats, a bird, and the newest addition our 10 week old Bernese Mountain puppy. I graduated from Buffalo State College and then went on to earn a Masters Degree in Counseling Psychology from Pace University. Prior to my son being born I worked for 7 years in a Domestic Violence Shelter in New York City with women and their children. I counseled women and their families individually and in groups. For the last five years at the shelter I was in administration and management. I resigned from my position as Director of Client Services after Connor was born because my commute into New York City was too long from where we live. When my son Connor was 4 months old I decided to start my Direct Sales Business with the Traveling Vineyard. I chose In Home Wine Tastings because I really enjoy wine and wanted to learn more about it. It was then that I started to write my first blog, "Traveling Wine Adventures." Since my son was adopted and my husband, and I had such a wonderful experience with our adoption and American Adoptions, I inquired with them about doing Adoption Home Studies and was hired contractually in September. I also have started to do Adoption Seminars locally for prospective adoptive parents. In August of 2005 I started my second blog "Working Moms Wanted". I started it because I found myself in place like many new Moms, needing to find work but not knowing if it would be better to work out of my home or get an outside job. My husband and I are socially active people and enjoy spending a lot of our time with families in the neighborhood and our own families. In addition we enjoy many hobbies. I enjoy running, reading, writing, cooking, and of course spending time with Connor.