How romantic! Writing your own vows is a beautiful way to show your spouse to be how you feel about him or her. It takes some effort, and shows that a lot of thought was put into the words said during the marriage ceremony.
It is something that should be agreed upon well in advance, and this idea should never be forced on the person if he or she feels awkward or uncomfortable about it. Writing your own vows should be something both of you want to do.
If you do agree to write your own vows, set a limit. Your vows should not be pages filled with flowery words or long poems. Keep it as short and sweet as possible while still conveying your feelings. Otherwise, even the most beautiful words will be lost on others, since they will likely stop listening after just a few lines.
Should you share your ideas? That’s up to you. Some people share and compare as they work on their vows, while others like to keep it private and only share on their wedding day. It’s up to you and your fiancée.
How do I get started? The simplest way to get started is to simply write down whatever you feel at the moment. You can organize your thoughts and polish it up later. Get your feelings down and then decide the best ways to express them.
Can I use notes? Yes, but it may prove awkward. It’s much more meaningful if you look into your beloved’s eyes while you say your vows, instead of looking at your notes. If you keep your vows from being too lengthy, you shouldn’t have trouble remembering them anyway. You want to give your closest attendant an index card with your vows written on it so he or she can prompt you if you draw a blank.