My husband and I got into an argument yesterday. It was one of those arguments where I got frustrated by something he always does. In this case, the laundry goes in the laundry hamper and not on the floor. Oh and he didn’t take out the trash when it was full and he doesn’t ever pick up the mail. Why is it he —
See, the list can go on and on. You know, I hate it when does these things all the time and I’m pretty sure there are things that he hates that I do. It’s pretty typical that we all have quirks that our spouses can’t stand.
For example, I’m a neat freak. I can’t stand in a room without straightening it. I try to leave rooms better than I found them. When I’m agitated, I clean. I also make everyone else help me clean.
When he gets home from work, he drops his shoes wherever; he leaves clothes on the end of the bed or in his home office. He puts the milk back in the fridge when there’s only a small amount left at the very bottom or worse, when it’s empty.
I never finish a can of coke, there’s always about two or three ounces left in the bottom. I will let the gas tank go all the way down to three drops before I’ll grudgingly stop to fill it up.
Marriage is like that. We’ve all got a lot of quirks and while we tell ourselves that it would be nice if our spouse were perfect, can you imagine how boring perfect would be? Can you imagine trying to live up to perfect? Every time I say or think you know, I hate it when you (insert complaint here) I remind myself that part of that is who he is.
Those quirks are part of the ingredients to his personality. We both place importance levels differently. He’s more of a let’s go and have fun and I’m more goal-oriented. He’s more likely to do things spontaneously and I’m more likely to plan.
In fact, my idea of a date is to plan out the day, the time and the event about two or three weeks ahead of time. His is to come home and say let’s just go. Sometimes I hate it when he does that and I know sometimes he hates that I want to plan it all out in advance. Yet at the same time, I know that we complement each other.
I inspire him to think ahead. He inspires me to be more in the moment. Together, we don’t do too badly – even when we argue. So you know, I do hate it when he does those things, but I love him for it too. So what things does your spouse do that you hate and love him for at the same time?
Come on, you know he or she does something!