Dating after a divorce has got to be one of the most difficult things out there. How soon is too soon? When should I introduce them to my children? How will I know if they are the right one? What if we break up? What if my children don’t like him? There are just so many questions and so few answers. Every situation is different, there is no one right answer. You have to trust yourself to make those decisions, which isn’t always easy. The pressure to make the right decision can be unbearable at times.
When I first started dating I was sure that every guy I dated was going to be “the one.” I wanted to be able to have my little fairytale family back and I was just sure that they were going to sweep me off my feet and ride me off into the sunset. Well, the first one didn’t work out. Neither did the second or the third, or the fourth or fifth for that matter. As much as I wanted to be married again I just couldn’t find someone that was the right fit for me and my son and I was starting to get a little frustrated. Weren’t there any good guys out there anymore? I was convinced there weren’t so I decided to take a hiatus from the dating scene for a while.
That decision was the absolute best thing I could have done for myself. I needed some time on my own to figure things out. I needed to decide who I was and what I wanted out of life. I didn’t need a man to make me happy, for the time being I was perfectly content on my own. I started to wonder why I had ever wanted a man in the first place! As time went on I slowly allowed myself back into the dating world, but this time was different. I knew who I was and what I was looking for and I wasn’t going to settle for anything less. Don’t be discouraged if it takes a little while. Forever is worth the wait!