How Premarital Counseling Might Help Marriages

What comes next? The other week one of the local radio station’s morning talk program held a discussion on marriage. A young engaged woman called in. She said that she signed herself and her fiance up for premarital counseling. She did so, she claimed, because her husband-to-be doesn’t know anything about what a modern marriage ought to be like. Her beloved was raised by his socially conservative grandmother. Now that they’re approaching their married life it came out that he believes she will do all of the work around the house and take care of the kids. We’ve looked at … Continue reading →

How to Find a Marriage Counselor

When your marriage is a bit rocky, you’ll want to seek out a good marriage counselor. But, you may not know where to turn. You don’t want to make your marriage worse by following the advice of a bad counselor. So, other than picking a marriage counselor randomly out of a phone book, what do you do? Here is some advice. Know Where to Look While the phone book is certainly an option, there are better ways. The first is through word of mouth from someone whose opinion you trust. However, you may be reluctant to share the fact that … Continue reading →

Don’t Ignore Problems in Marriage

In any marriage there are difficult times and often they can be worked through as we talk them out. But much as we might like to think we can handle any problems in our marriage and work them out on our own, sometimes we may need to admit that we need help. This blog was prompted by a comment posted in response to another blog. In Packed to the Rafters, an Aussie TV show very popular here at present the husband Dave, had this to say ‘men have a way of dealing with problems. They ignore them.’ There’s a certain … Continue reading →

Facing a Marriage Crisis

In a previous article I wrote about how alone I’ve felt lately. It’s to the point where I’m asking, “What’s the point of this relationship? Mostly he’s good to me, yes –when he’s available. And once in a while he does incredibly thoughtful things like how he did when he welcomed my mom. But the job is all-consuming anymore and he rarely has time for me. Not even when it’s serious stuff like it has been with my mom. And I don’t know if it really has to be that way, or if he’s using work as an excuse to … Continue reading →

I Got My Book!

I got my book today! Earlier I discussed how my curiosity of discussion in the forums led me to purchase the book The Power of a Praying Wife. So far I have skimmed several chapters and read a couple all of the way through. I cannot say that I find the book totally ridiculous as one commenter seemed to feel in the reviews that I had read. However I can see how desperate wives in attempt to find a miracle to save their marriage could be mislead in thinking that a quick fix is about to take place. I have … Continue reading →

“The Power of a Praying Wife”

I often look through (many times without posting) and browse the conversations going on in the forums. One topic caught my eye. A question was asked about a book that is designed to strengthen marriages. This book The Power of a Praying Wife, was recommended to a reader. The reader in turn asked if anyone in the forums had actually applied to the readings in the book to her own marriage. Several people did reply. I had never heard of the book before. I often am more familiar with children’s books rather than reading for my own purposes. However the … Continue reading →

Therapist Induced Marital Suicide

Can seeing a therapist actually destroy your marriage rather than repair it? The 1950s is about the time that people really started addressing marital issues and discord in any kind of systematic or institutional way. That’s not to say that pastors and ministers didn’t offer family counseling and moral support, but as an industry – marriage counseling didn’t really exist. The 1950s really focused on traditional marriage with a focus on gender roles. This was the decade after World War II and woman had a taste of working and being more independent. They left the workforce in droves as soldiers … Continue reading →

Divorce is Not an Option

I’ve never been one to say never. In fact, whenever I’ve said never – I find that it happens more often than not. I think it’s because as a species – we’re all still very much like children – you tell a child never to do something and not give them a good reason why and chances are – that child’s going to do it. Is there ever a good reason to get a divorce? Yes. Can I list all of them? Probably not. But if you are planning to get married, then you need to seriously consider how you … Continue reading →

Have You Met Yourself Recently?

Sherry wrote a blog recently called Are You Honest With Yourself? and I found that it touched me deeply. It affected me enough that I read it twice and now I want to throw in my own two cents and ask another question: Have You Met Yourself Recently? Consider for a Moment Consider for a moment what you would think of yourself if you’d met yourself recently? I began the exercise by considering all the things that I like about myself and all the things that I don’t particularly care for. One of my more positive attributes, at least I’ve … Continue reading →

Religious Groups Offering More Support to Strengthen Marriage

With so much concern climbing over the decline of marriage or the struggle of marriage in the modern world there are some groups that are taking action to support and strengthen marriage. Among those groups offering programs and developing new programs are churches and other religious organizations. The principles behind many of these programs are strengthening the ties of community that once supported married couples once more. The Religious Community The religious communities are one of the few remaining aspects of small town and local communities that we have from previous decades and centuries. The insulation of the religious community … Continue reading →