The Measure of Success

I was talking to a dear friend of mine late last night. We both were expressing our frustration with the men, or lack thereof, in our lives. We both have had such a strong desire to find a good man to share our lives with and have tried our best to live worthy of such a man; a man who would love and support us, who would be a good father and husband. I realized before long that we had both equated our success in life to whether or not we would ever marry. We both had such an intense … Continue reading →

Trusting in a Bigger Picture

I’ve always believed that everything in life happens for a reason. My life hasn’t gone at all how I thought it would, but there have been many lessons that I have learned along my bumpy path. I made a lot of mistakes when I was younger. There were a few years when I wandered aimlessly. I had no real purpose, I was simply living in the moment, without realizing the lasting consequences that those decisions would make someday. My divorce gave me a chance to put all that behind me. It gave me a chance to start anew. I had … Continue reading →

Never Too Old

I was only 21 when I got divorced. I was extremely young, but I felt like I had lived the life of a much older woman. As time went on I wasn’t sure I would ever get married again. It seemed like I had been single for so long already, I just couldn’t understand why it was taking me so long to find someone again. I felt like I had a lot to offer, but all the men that kept coming into my life were, well…less than what I wanted for me and my son. Stealing credit cards and sneaking … Continue reading →

Protecting Yourself

There are a lot of creeps out there. I know this because I’m pretty sure I’ve dated almost all of them. As a single mom, the stakes are a little higher than someone who hasn’t had children before. You’re not just dating for you; you’re dating for them as well. This means you have a lot of weight on your shoulders. It is your responsibility to protect both you and your children as you venture out into the dating world. Always meet in a public place and whether you trust them or not don’t give them your personal information. Be … Continue reading →

Go Out!

I haven’t been on a date in several months, mostly because I’ve begun to question my choice in men. The last several have been about as far from Mr. Right as you could possibly get. To put it nicely they were downright crummy. After the last one, I’ve been pretty gun shy. I have honestly started to wonder if there was such a thing as a “good guy”. I’m still working on that one, but I’ll let you know if they exist, I just have to find one first. So far, no luck! Tomorrow will be my first date in … Continue reading →

Time To Date, Again

When I was first divorced I dated, quite a lot. I didn’t know how to not be married so I wanted to get right back out there and find someone to love. When you are a single mother it’s much more complicated than just finding someone to love. You have to find someone who not only loves you, but your children. Then you cross your fingers and hope your kid likes them as well. This did not work out so well for me and after a couple years I thought I should just focus on raising Hailey and worry about … Continue reading →

The Dating Dilemna

Eventually you are going to want to date again. When I first got divorced I thought I was ready to date but I quickly found out that neither Hailey or I was ready. So I stopped, it wasn’t hard, I wasn’t having that much fun anyway and dealing with a sullen child after one of my dates made it even less fun. When you step back into the dating world you have to be prepared for the effect it will have on your relationship with your child. This is a very confusing time for kids, they still believe in happily … Continue reading →

Divorced Men and Women on Dating

Recently a study of 2000 people was done as part of a promo for the movie” Crazy, Stupid Love” and it was discovered that divorced men are more eager to remarry than divorced women. 47% of divorced men were ready to remarry compared with only 20% of divorced women. Men also seem to jump back into the dating world faster than women with more of them using on line dating services and willing to hire a professional matchmaker to help them find a woman. They didn’t ask any follow up questions so I don’t know why the participants answered the … Continue reading →

Step Parents

When you get divorced the last thing on your mind is getting married again. You feel overwhelmed, even if your ex husband didn’t help very much with the kids at least he helped sometimes, now you are on your own. You may find at first that you want to date, I think we all feel like undesirable failures when our marriage ends so we date, if only to show ourselves that someone still wants to date us. Initially there is nothing serious about the dating you do. For me, in the beginning, dating was a way to fill the hours … Continue reading →

The New Girlfriend

One thing I never thought I would have to deal with when Hailey was born was another woman coming into her life and either trying to keep her dad away or trying to be her mom. The part about trying to be her mother doesn’t really bother me, Hailey and I have a great relationship and I figure all kids need more people to love them and care about their well being. So as far as I’m concerned my ex husbands girlfriends can exercise their maternal instinct with my daughter to their hearts content. It’s the other scenario that bugs … Continue reading →